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[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 27 insightful - 5 fun27 insightful - 4 fun28 insightful - 5 fun -  (9 children)

Kind of sad that this is so 'abnormal' it is a new form of sexuality. Asexual? Nah, it is called being responsible, keeping it in your pants, having standards....You know, what most of us used to do...

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I think there may be some legitimacy with SOME people who identify with asexuality, but the vast vast VAST majority of people who use "Asexual" in their identity list are complete BS, of course.

Just as straight people have no attraction to people of the same sex and gay people have no attraction to people of the opposite sex, some people may simply have no attraction to people of either sex. However, I'd assume that these people don't go out screaming about how not-horny they are all the time like the attention seekers, but I would not doubt their existence. Historically, they likely would have been ignored for the fact that they don't commit the crime of same sex activity like gays and bisexuals do - I mean, would they be persecuted for never having sex?

Again, most people who call themselves asexual are just looking to make their inability or lack of desire to get laid with anyone available look special and not unfortunate, but there are probably a few legit ones out there.

[–]Bright_paintingLoad, lesbian biologist 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

One of my closest friends is a "true" asexual. She doesn't desire a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone, because she just doesn't get why anybody would want that. When we meet at 15, I just though that she was a late bloomer or a fellow lesbian; but now she is 20 and I think that she was just created in that way.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It happened the same to my with my sister. I'm pretty pretty sure my sister is asexual. At first, when we were teenagers, I thought she was a lesbian as well, but hadn't figure it out. She is now almost 24, never dated anyone and never had interest in anyone and sometimes is worried of dying "alone" because she desires companionship. But she doesn't ever feel sexual needs or attraction towards anyone. What worries her is simply no companionship. And we both had a wonderful upbringing and neither of us has any kind of trauma whatsoever. My sister has always been like this for as long as I can remember. She's the reason why I know asexuals do exists, despite being very very rare. And of course, she has absolutely no interest in screaming to the world she doesn't have sexual needs nor she labels herself as anything at all.

[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

For sure. Asexuals do exist but not these jerks that think they can turn it off and on whenever. I've met someone I assumed was but it wasn't any of my business and they didn't care to share because, you know, they had very little interest in discussing sex. Kind of a sign there.

[–]jim_steak 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The only real issue I have with asexuality (besides the ridiculous claims that asexuals are oppressed) is their claim that questioning of asexuality is harmful. There are a lot of treatable problems that might result in lowered sex drive: hormone imbalances, medications, sexual trauma, stress, etc. and I worry that treating lowered sex drive as an innate condition similar to sexuality could result in many people suffering with problems that are treatable.

[–]shveya 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think the vast majority of them are just experiencing side-effects from antidepresants.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 9 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 6 fun10 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

I mean if your dating pool is gender loons it's no surprise you don't want to have sex tbh.

[–]nautilistic 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's not even 'abnormal'. It only appears that way if you get all your knowledge of dating culture from /r/tinder or television.

It's vastly more common for people to be "demisexual". Except most people are happy not having to claim a label and position in the alphabet soup for it.

[–]WildApples[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What tripped me out is that this was a married, middle-aged woman with children, not a naive, college student whose knowledge of sexual relationships has been defined solely by campus hook-up culture. She is old enough to know better.

She said this in front of her teenage son, so she is sending him the message that hooking up indiscriminately is the norm and if he wanta an emotional connnection he needs a special label. It is sick.