DiscussionBi men in gay spaces – examples of constant homophobia, misinformation and undermining our definitions

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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 31 insightful - 2 fun31 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

There are bisexual men who are like this, who are unsympathetic towards gay men. But what do these bisexual men have in common? They are TRAs. Made worse by the fact that they are on Reddit. Reddit is a toxic cesspit of stupidity.

I don’t know about you, but if a bisexual man understands biology, I have no problem with him being a guest in gay men’s spaces.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

To complicate matters, if the opportunity were presented to me under the right circumstances (the biggest hypothetical condition being that I was not in a monogamous relationship), I would consider messing around with a trans-man who had a functional vagina. I don't consider myself meaningfully bisexual, i.e. probably 5.9 on the Kinsey scale. But it would be an opportunity to see what vaginal sex was like while all the other boxes were ticked. I would very likely not be interested in a LTR with a trans-man because I like le coque too much.

But for me the issue is one of consent and personal choice. It's presumptuous to assume that any gay man must consider trans-men as part of their dating pool or even their hookup pool. If some gay men are interested: cool. It has nothing to do with my interest level or that of any other gay man.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I don't see what the point of you identifying as bisexual would be. It is not a meaningful Identity for you.

[–]lazy-summer-godSuper Gay[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

He can't identify as homosexual, because he will be sending the wrong message that gay men can be somewhat attracted to females. That's redefinition of homosexuality and I'm surprised to see it suggested here, since it's the favorite TRA rhetoric.