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[–]DiveBarDiva 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I guess I don’t see what you mean here. “True innocent”? The difference is he knows there is something wrong with him. He knows it’s something he needs to work though. He has ways of coping that aren’t giving in to it. Mostly just trying to ignore it when he didn’t know what it was. Then when I peaked during the Super movement, (I’m super Bi myself and was getting really frustrated that all the activists were saying that as a Bi person i wasn’t allowed to have genital preference or else I’m a bigot since I’m obviously fine with either genitalia) I watched everything happen in real time and saw how crazy all the TRA were . I learned about Blanchard and had him (my husband) read his work. we finally had a name for the thing we just called his “his weird thing” because we didn’t know anything about it. Though askAGP he found some better ways of coping that help to build better sexual pathways in the brain. We are both against gender ideology. We are against trans in sports, trans in bathrooms, spas, using it as conversion therapy, all of it, He isn’t narcissistic or abusive nor does he gas light me. I understand why people have a negative view of people with AGP but he’s just trying to navigate life while suffering from this weird thing. He understands it’s a fetish.. he’s not “just want to live a fetishy life” he’s trying to change the way he thinks. I really don’t think it makes him inherently bad it just means he has to try harder to live a normal life. He’s a good person. He thinks his AGP comes from seeing porn too young. Not even porn really. He saw the movie show girls when he was 10 or 11 and thought they were beautiful and wanted to be like them. Him and his friend would take turns pretending to be different characters. I’ve never seen the film but I’m guessing taking turns playing the girl character?? I think -and this is just my opinion- its not backed up by anything as far as I know, early access to porn is causing the rise in AGP. And There is a subset of AGP people that insist they are the wrong gender. Which IS harmful. That is the thing that is harming everyone. Not AGP itself. That’s an erotic target error and can be dealt with over time. Assuming the person wants to. A lot of these AGP people are in so deep in the ideology they start seeking validation of their fantasy from others and forcing themselves into women’s spaces and all of the rest of the problems we see. It’s harmful to AGP people because TRA are trying to convince them that there is nothing wrong with them and they are just trans. That’s not good. It’s confusing people who are suffering from this type of paraphilia