RantB in LG spaces dilemma

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[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Fuck off with this B hatred already it is getting old. Fight the real fucking enemies please.

I understand OP's frustration but I'm inclined to agree with you. It is unfair to conflate the actions of one group of bisexuals (or people who identify as bisexual, but may just be identity tourists...) with bisexual people in general; if society did that, then gay people would be unfairly maligned by the actions of the San Francisco gay men's choir.

[–]lazy-summer-godSuper Gay[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

gay people would be unfairly maligned by the actions of the San Francisco gay men's choir.

And we absolutely are, lol.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yep, and shouldn't be!

[–]lazy-summer-godSuper Gay[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Perhaps, but who even says I'm calling out all bisexuals? I've mentioned a very specific group of bisexuals that invades r/askgaybros and bisexuals in the comments to this post all go "hurr durr not all bisexuals!". You have – and this time I mean all of bisexuals, apparently – very similar mentality to Ts in department of making yourself the victims, even when we're discussing part of your community doing something shitty.

The post is about bi people who invade gay and lesbian spaces and you make it all about yourselves and supposed "oppression". If that's the case, please explain on what basis do you feel entitled to be let into our spaces.

[–]reluctant_commenter 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

your community

I'm a homosexual woman. If you're talking about "your community" as in the LGB community-- which I do consider to be my people, yourself included-- then yes, I do think we sometimes do "something shitty" and make mistakes.

bisexuals in the comments to this post all go "hurr durr not all bisexuals!".

I think your concerns are legitimate, and I'll admit, I've seen a similar phenomenon myself in supposedly-lesbian spaces on Reddit where some people are like, "I love dick!" and don't bother to mention that they're actually bisexual (or even straight). It's a difficult topic to talk about on LGB forums but I still think it's worthwhile to talk about.

Having said that-- some of your comments were "all bisexuals," lol. Sweeping generalizations like this:

Yeah, they can relate so much that somehow their takes are always tainted and unrelatable for gay men and send so many wrong messages in the name of our community that sometimes bystanders don't know wtf is our point when we keep saying contradicting stuff.

You don't get to scream "eRaSuRe!" when it suits your whims and then basically call for it yourselves, just because you want to be included in other letter's spaces.

It sounds like the bisexual people you're referring to on Reddit act like that, but IMO, (most) bisexuals on Saidit don't, and certainly not the guy you were replying to, who is not even bisexual...

To be clear-- a couple people in this thread seem to think it's unfair that some gay men, and lesbian women, want their own spaces without bisexuals. I can't get behind that, although I sympathize with the position bisexuals are in.