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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I was in line getting late night munchies with my girlfriend recently, and the girl in front of us asked us if we were a couple and said she had a girlfriend too. We chatted with her for a bit. She was about a decade younger and it turns out she was hoping to get into the same career as us.

At one point I walked up to the counter to get our food and apparently she said to my girlfriend about me while I was gone for all of 30 seconds, “she’s the top, isn’t she?”

I have no idea what she even meant. I thought this was supposed to be sexual terminology, if anything. We did not talk about sex at all. Anyway I wasn’t there to hear it so I don’t know exactly how she said it but it struck me as such a weird thing to say. I was literally giving her career advice. She seemed nice enough otherwise and was academically very credentialed. I looked her up later and found out she has a pretty extensive social media presence and a following so I’m not surprised that the online lingo seeped in.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa[S] 12 insightful - 8 fun12 insightful - 7 fun13 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

are you a top? :D

But for real, wtf happens in people mind to ask such stupid and intimate questions?

[–]ZveroboyAlinaclownfish is a clown or a fish? || Febfem 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In newspeak "top" means the one with penis, after all "manly looking non-binary identifying man together with woman" in Canada will be considered as "lesbian couple" by law.