Gay MenDisagreements with my boyfriend

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[–]gadflyinajar 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The most interesting thing to me is people's tendency these days to show someone a video of another person agreeing with them as evidence for a claim. It's painfully clear that people's opinions aren't their own, and that they are simply copying each other in a startling obsession with being socially correct.

The logic is this, and when you spell it out to them they're inclined to still continue thinking this way: I'm losing an argument. This must be because they haven't seen the video/influencer I've seen (because I was convinced of this by them). Therefore, when I show them the "content", that will prove I'm correct.

They don't even stop to CONSIDER that the person/people they're listening to could both be incorrect, AND be reaching their conclusions in the same fashion, holding the same authority as themselves. It's a hivemind in denial of the hive. When you aren't convinced by the stupid fucking tik tok clip they sent you (that just makes a claim), you're accused of being intellectually dishonest, because you should have been convinced. In reality, nobody should be convinced of anything by anything that isn't evidence or an argument.

[–]julesburm1891 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This. I had a disagreement with a friend irl a couple of weeks ago because she was on about demisexuality. Here’s how that conversation went: Me: how is that different from being a well-adjusted person with boundaries? Friend: it just is. Me:…but how? Friend: refers to a graphic novel she read and implies I’m a jerk for not being convinced

We consume more media than at any point in history, but people aren’t willing to examine their beliefs if it provides the slightest bit of discomfort or legwork.

[–]gadflyinajar 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a huge fan of capitalism in general, because the freedom of markets as well as the increase in standard of living is to what I attribute much of the social change in the 1900s. I am afraid however, that by studying and really understanding economics, we might have opened a Pandora's Box. The commodification of art is a result of the "optimization" of things, but optimized art seems like an oxymoron. In any case, now most art is meant to solely garner fans and keep them, with the hopes of building a franchise. What's the most optimal way to do that? Pander. I also think maybe something in the human mind goes awry if you're pandered to so much, like a weird sort of para-social echo chamber effect, but I wouldn't know how to prove it.