I am writing this post because I have disagreements with my boyfriend on how we see things. I consider him a person who can be sensible, but he believes a lot in the SJW ideology. One day we were talking about when Demi Lovato had the neurotic attack on the ice cream parlor, and he, despite considering himself Demi's biggest fan, agreed that her reaction was inexcusable and that she basically needs psychological help ( Or psychiatric), from that issue we move on to the issue of her coming out of the closet as non-binary (They/them); I told him that I saw a post on Facebook on the subject and most of the comments were supportive, but that there was a group of people who were correcting in the comments about the pronouns (The worst thing is that it was in Spanish, so in Instead of saying "them", people in Spanish want to call him "Elle", a word that does not even exist in our language). My opinion in this regard is that the pronouns are irrelevant, it is how you treat and how you express yourself about the person as such that matters, and that it seems silly to me to be putting words that do not exist in my vocabulary because it can offend a person. His opinion was totally different. He compared not calling Demi "Elle" as if people started calling me "She / her" because I'm gay. I replied that it is totally different because if someone calls Demi "She/her" it is because she presents herself as a woman and she looks like a woman. If someone calls me "She/her" it is with the malicious intention of calling me a woman because of my sexuality. Things didn't go well, and in the end, he even told me that "I have to check myself."
Days later he showed me a TikTok of a gay man saying that he is not in favor of the pride marches because he wants to choose to live his sexuality without having to explain to anyone, despite everything he understands that through the revolutions and marches is that today's rights have been achieved. My opinion on this is that he has the right not to go if he doesn't feel like it. My boyfriend's opinion is that he says that regarding the pride marches there are no gray scales, or you support, or you do not support it. I don't agree but I didn't want to fight again so I didn't discuss the matter with him. But my opinion is that you can be in favor of what pride as such is without agreeing on what the pride march has become today. You can support a person and that does not mean that you have to agree with every damn thing that he says and does.
I honestly don't know what to do, because I feel that when he wants to have these discussions with me it is not to debate, but rather he wants to see it as an opportunity to "educate" me.
Sorry if this post was too long, I wanted to vent a bit. (Sorry if there are mistakes, Spanish is my first language)
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