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[–]usehername[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The really interesting thing about paraphilia in women is that it does not seem very prevalent in heterosexual-identified women. Bisexual and homosexual identified women seem to lead the pack. There are a few hypothesis on this.

Masochism in het women is considered normal, but I'd say the majority of young women enjoy some sort of masochistic element, and the rest are pressured into it.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well when I say masochism, I'm not talking "rough sex," or experimentation with common BDSM themes, which half of the USA population has some life-time prevalence of. I'd also omit things that are a trend, like "choking," which is a really stupid thing to be doing because of the risks. It's a grey area between rough sex and masochism, for sure though. E.g. I'm thinking along the lines of being turned on when someone orders you to change your wind shield wipers, or else. Then failing to do so, being punished for it, and finding the entire scenario to be highly erotic. Real anecdote. Bisexual woman though. It's this nature of masochism that is way more common in bisexual and homosexual women, and men, then it is in heterosexual women.

[–]schomee 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

the number one and most popular fantasy for heterosexual women is to be raped and destroyed. Theyre also highly homophobic because theyre disgusted with themselves and project their failings on to effeminate gay men and identify with them.

Theyre also the number one transitioners from female to male and lead the way in yaoi. Straight "gay identified" women lead the pack in the charge against gay men when it comes to the whole "fuck me, bigot" campaigns.

I dont know where you're getting your ideas from but if you look at reddit and twitter, where theyre more concentrated, the lesbian ones are greatly outnumbered. And these straight women go from wanting masochism to then looking at gay men and slowly getting turned on by trying to dominate and turn into sadists.

I've perused through almost all gaytransmale subreddits (there are 4) and read almost every post and the comments, and the one thing they usually have in common is the reason that pushes them to identify as males: because they like sexually dominating and cant imagine doing it to straight males but feel more comfortable exercising power over what they perceive to be vulnerable, submissive and effeminate gay guys.

Multiple posts talk about that "surrender" (defeat), submission and feeling a sense of superiority and wanting to have a penis to achieve that dynamic but they feel they can only play out this dynamic on gay males since theyre a homophobic power dynamic theyre looking for.

Heterosexual women's "kinks" are hidden because people dont know where to look. It's not on pornhub but in the fan fiction. There's an ocean's worth of sadism but it's disguised as gay porn to the average viewer, not understanding that it's all exclusively written by women.

[–]usehername[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Heterosexual women's "kinks" are hidden because people dont know where to look. It's not on pornhub but in the fan fiction. There's an ocean's worth of sadism but it's disguised as gay porn to the average viewer, not understanding that it's all exclusively written by women.

This.