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[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I don't know. Me and others have seen the pattern but nobody knows what to make of it. It's intuition that tells me it's an epiphenomenon. It's also something I've only really seen in works of fiction, and I haven't exactly collected any real-life anecdotes. There is a dichotomy of what fiction appeals to women, and what they tend to seek from partners.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Are you describing women sexualising certain interpersonal dynamics? E.g. emotional availability, pursuit, status, power dynamics, availability, safety etc. Or are you getting at something else? Because you could pick vampires, wearwolves, K-pop bands, and dishy unavailable early 19th century landowners; and I would think they all hit much the same emotional beats.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

I'm thinking a specific class including Christian Grey and vampires, for instance. Not K-pop.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

How would you link Christian Grey and vampires?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Dangerous bad boys that can be tamed through love.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

So what's your working hypothesis?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I got nothing. Just an observation of popular themes for erotic material.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I always wonder to myself what Blanchard would have come up with if he was 40 years younger and had started his research within the last 10 years. I also wonder what he would have come up with if he were a woman. I also don't have much. I question whether women getting into certain erotic tropes is the same mechanism as a guy having a fetish for high heels or something. Tell me if you get anywhere though.

[–]usehername[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The mechanism is conditioning through orgasm, so it is the same. It's just the experiences that are different. For example, a guy will be exposed to lots of porn (targeted towards men) with women in high heels, and a gal will be exposed to lots of erotica with the tropes we've observed.