BisexualIs the B in LGBTQ Being Erased? (PSYCHOLOGY TODAY article)

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[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes I get this all the time. I come out to someone then they argue with me about it. Heaven forbid I have been in a longterm relationship with a man. Forget that I find women more attractive (usually). Add in being from conservative area and religious upbringing and then wonder why I don't tell most people.

When did my sexuality suddenly become everyone's business?

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The argument you could try is that while you're more attracted to women, you're statistically more likely to find a heterosexual/bisexual male partner than a bisexual female/lesbian partner. But don't waste your breath on them. They don't deserve it.

[–]reluctant_commenter 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Right? I'm always amazed by how people don't stop and think about how many more available opposite-sex/opposite-sex-attracted potential partners there are than LGB potential partners! Time for me to grumble about basic math education...

[–]reluctant_commenter 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I live in a pretty liberal area, and among my friends and acquaintances, when someone says "gay" they mean "all LGBTQ+" or sometimes "LGB" or sometimes even "anything involving the faintest amount of same-sex attraction." A couple times I've suggested that maybe glossing over bisexuals as just "gay" is a little reductive, and contributes to misunderstanding/erasure. So far I've just gotten scoffed at, lol.

I hear people say a ton, "sort-of gay" or "very gay" as if being gay were something a person could have in varying quantities. I assume most people who say that are just referring to same-sex attraction rather than homosexuality, but it really sends a mixed message about what bisexuality is. No wonder there is erasure. And who is harmed by this? Bisexual and gay (homosexual) people alike...

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hear people say a ton, "sort-of gay" or "very gay" as if being gay were something a person could have in varying quantities.

I hate when they do that... it makes us look like we are all pansexual. I don't want an opposite sex experience, if somone likes them even occasionally then your not homosexual.

I assume most people who say that are just referring to same-sex attraction rather than homosexuality, but it really sends a mixed message about what bisexuality is.

That's why I tell Bi people who don't wanna infringe on the lgb community because they are in opposite sex relationships that for the sake of their own identities they need to be "out" as bi.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Join the club. The G is also being erased, and the L has already been erased.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Exactly. Everything is an umbrella term these days

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fuck umbrella terms. I want nothing to do with the T.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Not sure why this article is trying to paint this as a new trend, it's always been like this.

We aren't useful to anyone, we don't serve anyone's needs, we don't have a purpose. We just exist. I think many people find that unsatisfactory.