ColonizationComing out as mild straight. Can’t be too spicy now…

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[–][deleted] 29 insightful - 19 fun29 insightful - 18 fun30 insightful - 19 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, stay in the closet. Life is so hard for people who don't like casual sex. So much discrimination out there for people like that.

[–]SuperGayIsOkay 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

"I don't like casual sex but I can't function or cope unless I slap a label on it I can pin on myself to make me look special."

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 25 insightful - 13 fun25 insightful - 12 fun26 insightful - 13 fun -  (2 children)

Some of my favourite comments from the ladies over at Ovarit:

Wanting connection and having standards before you put out makes you asexual now? That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. -Boudicaea

These people are absolutely UNBEARABLE. Being lesbian or gay is NOT a trendy new pair of shoes. These are the most uncaring, unsympathetic fuckwits I’ve ever come across. - IrishTheFrenchie

How many family members will cut off contact?

After they find out that she only has sexual relationships with people of the opposite sex after a friendship or deep emotional connection is formed? Probably all of them! I wouldn't want MY children around that filth. - Hypatia

Ugh, how can a grown-ass adult post something like this on social media and not die of embarrassment. - Shadoe

Why is there no option for "get a hobby" ? - Bellatrixbells

[–]Rag3[S] 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I just had to share it here since saidit was down yesterday. Gotta get LGBs takes on this madness 😂.

[–]SuperGayIsOkay 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's so true that these people are unbearable and exhausting. It's a cry for attention.

[–]Socialjustus 21 insightful - 9 fun21 insightful - 8 fun22 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Translation: My low libido is killing my marriage, and I do not wish to seek medical help.

💖 Does that make me a special magical pixie?

👍 How can I make this a gay rights issue?

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 20 insightful - 5 fun20 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

This is ripe for a "how it started, how it's going" meme

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Excellent idea.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is a system being imposed by straight people, presumably promiscuous and emotionally detached ones.

I think this is related to pornography taking over as the main exposure regular people have to sex. If porn is normal, normal people aren't.

[–]our_team_is_winning 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Yes! This is a pornsick thing.

Maybe in the late 60s, young women who weren't promiscuous got called "squares," but for women (I think some gay men are the same but you tell me, guys) it's normal to get to know someone and actually like them before getting sexual. This is not news. And she's been married 10 years. She hasn't gotten to know her husband well enough yet? She said the kid's 5.

This is just stupid.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

only sexually interested after a relationship/friendship is established, part of the asexual spectrum

They're not ace at all then. What part of 'no sexual attraction' is not clear?

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 10 insightful - 6 fun10 insightful - 5 fun11 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

What part of 'no sexual attraction' #I'm #QUEER #and #special #centre #me is not clear?

FTFY.

[–]sadbihours 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

I’m so glad June is almost over

[–]fijupanda 7 insightful - 5 fun7 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Which part of asexuality is hard to understand? The not having sexual attractions towards anyone or what?

Demisexuals. Oh, I was so worried about them. I am like the average person that hops on any random passerby with a wink and maybe a chewing gum as an ice breaker.

gimme a break, special snowflakes.

[–]serf_n_terfStraight Ally - Surf’s up! 🏄‍♀️ 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Talk about being bored. My God.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This just makes me roll my eyes so hard. She has been living a very comfortable life as a straight woman. Growing up with peers she never questioned if she isn't straight or normal. She married a guy thinking she's just like anyone else. And then she saw an opportunity to be fucking quirky demisexual. This pisses me off. Even if I never gone through the struggle, which gay people go through while growing up, I still felt there was something wrong with me and I didn't understand if I was a late bloomer and discover I am straight later or a serious condition was eating my brain that I couldn't feel attracted to people at all. I even once just said I had no idea what was my sexual orientation back then and all the peers just looked in confusion (maybe thought I was closeted?). Asexuality being a spectrum is a huge fucking mistake.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think pretty much everything becoming a spectrum is the problem. In some cases, it does apply, for example autism spectrum disorder or bisexuality (not conflating the two but just putting them forth as examples), but pretty much everything else is innate and very strict. Either you're completely homosexual or you're bisexual. Either you're completely asexual or you're het/homo/bi. There's no gray area in sex either. Either you're a man or a woman. Even if you're intersex, you'll still be primarily male or female with some opposite sex organs/differences. There is no in-between.

Why is this so hard for people to understand???

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I used to think the spectrum problem was unique to asexual community and this always bothered me- sometimes I envied how it's more binary for homosexuality or even bisexuality (in a sense that "semibisexuality" was more likely to be ridiculed instead of being put as one of the "subsexualities" of bi). But after having my peak moment regarding trans issues I see the whole LGBT+ turns each identity into a spectrum. The thing is not everything can be a spectrum and asexuality definitely isn't. Once you feel sexual attraction you're just a normal sexual person. Sexuality (in a sense of experiencing sexual attraction of any kind) can be a spectrum but not asexuality.