This is such a weird comment for a lesbian to make. I think you're just projecting the way your body experiences pleasure onto others. That's no better than people saying that because they are attracted to both sexes and have a preference for one, that every straight or gay person chooses to be gay or straight.

Lesbians are attracted to women and women alone both when sex is occurring and when it isn't. Lesbians are attracted to female bodies, including and especially female genitalia. I don't know any lesbians who are attracted to sex toys whether or not they use them. Strap-ons are sex toys that are temporarily attached to women who have female bodies 100% of the time. The woman wearing it still has a vagina, vulva, breasts, a female skeleton with wider hips and butt, and other female sex characteristics. What penises and strap-ons have in common are that they are both shaped to fit inside a vagina and many women regardless of the sex or sexes they are attracted to experience pleasure from penetration. I don't know any lesbians who use dildos that are even shaped or made to resemble penises, but let me know if you do.

Many women orgasm from penetration and there are women who orgasm primarily from penetration. My girlfriend is in this latter category and is very obviously and indisputably a lesbian, definitely not attracted to men/male bodies, and would never be attracted to transbians who have obviously male bodies whether artificially altered or not. I also used to think women like her were a myth. In contrast, I'm incapable of orgasming from penetration alone so yea, strap-ons are not going to get the job done for me. Strap-ons/dildos and other sex toys are tools. No more. No less. Not evidence of attraction to biological males.