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    I appreciate you distinguishing between those two different sides, that helps to clarify. I've made a couple of those sorts of jokes before that you describe making with your lesbian friend, with another person who is gay, and it can be fun, lol; poking fun at reality. The part I really struggle with is hearing someone who is LGB tell a straight person, "This stereotype is true of all lesbians" because a straight person does not have the same context as another gay person, and might accept it without realizing when it does not apply or that it is actually a joke. Sometimes I hear people go, "my gay friend told me X is true about gay people, so I know it's true" or "my black friend told me X about black people or is like X, so the stereotype is true" and I think a lot of harm can spread that way. Particularly in our current world where people identify "trans lesbians" or "trans gay men" on the basis of a bunch of stereotypes.