Completely agree. I felt that way too growing up, and I'm sorry that you did. It often seems to me as if there is a massive proliferation of stereotypes about LGB adults, and almost nothing in the way of LGB adult role models; I sure had that experience when I was a kid, anyway.

I was just thinking about this earlier today in relation to RuPaul's Drag Race, of all things. I was at a rural liberal arts college when the first season came out and me and my little clique of closeted lesbians and bis were passionate fans from the first episode.

It was the first time I'd seen gay adults in a group (men, yes, but still,) and the first thing I latched onto was the behaviors they were modeling to cope with anger. Talking about issues on the show also gave my little group of friends common ground to talk about them in our own lives. Kind of like learning a language. It was revolutionary in its first couple of seasons.

I wonder what a female equivalent to that could be.