Holy shit this is amazing. I'm bookmarking this. This is the perfect amalgamation of everything that makes people 'transphobic'. Let's break this down:

Doesn't the idea that we need to disclose immediately upon meeting potential partners just cater to a transphobic idea that a cis person will "accidentally" sleep with / be attracted to a trans person who passes? ..... I also completely understand disclosing for your own safety due to "trans panic"

Lots of words to say 'rape by deception'. There's a reason not disclosing HIV status to potential partners is considered a crime in some places. People have the right to refuse to date someone for ANY reason, from the heavy: disability status, political differences, fertility status, etc. To the "bigoted" (but not really): race, socioeconomic status, etc. To the superficial: weight, height, hair color, etc. No one owes you shit when it comes to who people let in their bedrooms.

Aren't "concerns" like a preference for "non-surgical genitalia" just transphobic?

Aren't "concerns" like a preference for "non-wax fruit" just stilllife art-phobic? -GLaDOS voice- That's you. That's how dumb you sound.

EDIT: I just want to clarify that something like genital preference isn't what I'm saying is transphobic. No one is trying to force anyone into doing anything they don't want to do. I'm specifically and ONLY saying that pressuring trans people to disclose immediately is transphobic.

So, theoretically, OP is okay with the humiliation of being kicked out of someone's bedroom after taking his clothes off because he's a 'woman' with a dick, but not with someone politely asking if he's trans beforehand so they can, y'know, avoid hurting his feelings and getting called slurs. Lmao okay. We all know that's a lie.

Aaaand this comment:

I remember a thread where I said maybe cis people should disclose on a first date they don't want to date trans people because it can be dangerous for trans people to come out. But that idea was downvoted into oblivion.

You were downvoted to oblivion because you know god damn well "cis" people who say they aren't into trans people get called transphobic, cancelled, doxxed, fired, and potentially their livelihoods ruined. Fuck off with your feigned ignorance.

I really hope they keep saying this stuff. Keep peaking people with your ridiculous demands. I hope all the AGP transwomen in their programmer socks and cat ears code dozens of upvote bots to get this to the front page.

ETA: Also, the whole "accidentally sleeping with a trans person who passes." This doesn't happen nearly as often as they think it does. The reality is 90% of them don't pass. We just don't say anything because, contrary to what they might think, we don't get off on making trans people uncomfortable. In addition, we use preferred pronouns and such because we have better things to do than deal with the incessant whining, REEing, bitching, and crying they do about getting mISgENdErEd.

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