i think she knows what she's doing and it's more of an attack and attempt at exploitation and basically at theft of precious social capital that took forever to build. i see this pattern constantly repeated.

She highly benefits and perpetuates heterosexual supremacy when it suits her and she knows it actively harms, kills and destroys gays and lesbians but she's extremely happy to do it in her backwards little town. If this was 20 years ago, she would be getting married to a man in a homophobic church and smirking at the gays and lesbians and their subhuman status.

what boils her blood is that she's encountered gays and lesbians who arent subhuman and above her and that's a massive problem that needs fixing. so she understands that her "gay best friend"'s life has been ruined within her system and group and she abandoned him...fine, you're not obligated to help him in any way...but why then do you demand 10,000 more help and empathy than the speck of dirt's worth of empathy you would never even give to your out gay friend?

She'll wait for her gay and lesbian "allies" to die, suffer, do all the work within her community and then she'll run back there and write articles of how there's another community she abused and neglected and she needs immediate access to it. this is what gays and lesbians mean when we say "pick a side". it's never about dating but what she's doing. we need to start making consequences for people like this. her narcissism isnt our problem.