Discussionfetishization/contempt

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[–]Eurowoman24 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

I'm straight but I'll try to answer some of your question. I think that the straight women who fetishize gay men seem to not see them as individuals who simply like dudes. But as a group of inferior,weaker,sensitive,feminine men which they sometimes develop an attraction to. Personally I find that icky on the part of straight women, as long as gay men don't criticize my body or call it disgusting just for being female I think we should be friends and just enjoy our mutual love of dick. ;)

[–]grammaroo[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

ok but if they see them as "weaker, sensitive and feminine men which they develop an attraction to"...then where does the contempt and homophobia come in?

[–]Eurowoman24 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

I'm guessing it probably comes in when they get rejected.

[–]nettygay5 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

i find it strange that they'd even be offended and "feel" rejected by someone incapable of even reciprocating anything biologically. I didnt even know women could even feel rejected by gay males. The world's most beautiful women could all be in one room and a gay guy would just see kinship or people to giggle and gossip with if he's feminine. I guess a lot of them dont truly believe in homosexuality or it doesnt really register in their minds? They see it more as a feminine aesthetic?

[–]Eurowoman24 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

The first part assumes you're speaking about people comfortable within themselves and level headed. Judging by some of the gender ideologues on twitter... yeah I'd say some don't understand the concrete reality of homosexuality. I think movies portraying only the GBF trope are also to blame.

[–]nettygay5 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

GayBestFriend trope would just affirm homosexual identity as a sexless companion to some main female character. I experienced it and was never sexualized (although lots of groping)

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Some straight women really wrap their sense of self-worth up in their ability to attract men. It can be an affront when the non-trivial effort, expectations, and sense of entitlement they put into the endeavor does not pan out. The ability to turn someone down is powerful.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Some straight women really wrap their sense of self-worth up in their ability to attract men.

Sadly this is a message that society pushes on women and girls generally so while it’s no surprise that there are many women who think this way, it’s still sad to see, with the added effect of causing women to see other women as natural enemies in this zero sum game.