Discussionfetishization/contempt

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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Not sure why some gay men call women's bodies disgusting? I don't find them disgusting at all, just ... not fascinating. My husband is kind of repulsed by female genitalia in a way that I don't understand, but he's otherwise OK with women as friends.

[–]Eurowoman24 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah I don't know either, like "boobs are disgusting sacks of fat" and so on, is just so hurtfull to say (context: this was in the context of a literature course we were taking). Thankfully those guys are few and far between(i hope?), but it doesn't make me want to be friends with you after that you know?

[–]grammaroo[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

i dont think theyre genuinely disgusted by women and it's "performative". i think it's just a reaction to growing up being forced, by almost suicidal levels of trauma to accept the female body as sexual or something that you're supposed to want. and it's not a society thing, it's a "your mom and dad will leave you and your entire family will abandon you if you dont like boobs and vaginas". It's not tied to the actual human beings but theyre reacting to their parents/family/society. and these type of men resent that lesbians can have a "ewww, dicks" party but gay men are stigmatized for doing the whole "eww boobs" party and just see it as a double standard.

i dont think they have any idea in their heads that it's even offensive or rude, they would just think you'd be like, "yes, i really dont like attraction to women either". there's a cluelessness in what theyre saying.

[–]Eurowoman24 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

thanks for replying, and that does make total sense when you put it that way. It's hard to not take it personally of course but thanks for making me aware of this.