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[–]linda_senora 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

For the last couple of months I have been taking care of my mother.

She needed a partial colectomy due to perforated diverticulitis. I have had to take care of her incision and her colostomy.

I am surprised at how adept I am at it.

Two months down, three more to go.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

My mother broke her leg and she was confined to our house for three months. It was hard because I was in college at the time, so I was home only during the weekends. A few weeks in and I got used to helping her out. I learned how to use the washing machine, the dryer, the dishwasher and other stuff. My main concern was how my mother felt about the situation. Six months later she was back to normal.

[–]linda_senora 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Good to hear!

You learned valuable skills and she recovered quickly.

Edit: if your mom is anthing like mine, she was probably concerned about being a burden to you. Mine keeps apologizing to me.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

My mother felt like that as well, though she never vocalised it. She didn’t need to anyway, because it wasn’t her fault. Admittedly, at the start I was worried about how it would affect me for the first day, but by the evening when my dad and I had to help her get to bed, all I could think of was how this was affecting her. When she was recovering, I took the train coming home every Friday and walked home so I could keep her company until Sunday night.

I probably should have used her injury as an opportunity to learn how to cook. Oh well.

[–]linda_senora 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Well, your dad was of help.

Mine is useless. My sister and I are the ones bearing the brunt of her care. She is trying to take each day as it comes, and she can stand up and walk on her own.

The surgeons actually told her she should resume her routine as soon as possible.

You did as much as you could and I am sure she appreciates the time you spent with her.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My dad had to go to work a lot, but he would bring home cooked food from the shop on the way home because he’s not a good cook and he wasn’t going to let my mother cook until she was ready to stand for extended periods of time. His free time was spent on her. Sorry to hear about your dad.

[–]linda_senora 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Your dad took the initiative.

My father cannot cook, but he can drive her to her doctors appointments.

I don't know if he is careful enough to deal with my mom's colostomy, but I am sure she would rather have me do it.

He is just old, hispanic men of his generation were taught their only responsibility was to bring home the bacon.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh, okay.