I am masculine, at least by 2021 standards. But I am much more masculine now than I was 10 years ago. When I was 16 I didn’t participate in sports, except during PE, which was only one hour a week. I didn’t lift weights. I did go to the gym once, and even lifting one of the lighter weights was a challenge for me. I never helped out with manual labour. I was weak, lazy and low energy. The only consolation was that I was 5’9 compared to 5’6(I’m 5’11 now). Now at 26? I lift weights three to four times a week. I practice karate - the lockdowns have ruined it but I’m going back as soon as I can, or maybe I’ll take up BJJ. I have helped my cousin, who’s a plumber, out with fixing the radiators of a client's house. I got a pull up frame for Christmas one year and I assembled it myself just by reading the instructions. I occasionally help my dad out with physical tasks around the house. I work in a factory. All this while being disabled. But the kicker is, you don’t have to be masculine to do all of that, femboys can do that too. I’m only masculine because I learned to just be more confident in myself - besides, I don’t have it in me to be feminine, it’s not natural for me. The point is, I bettered myself instead of becoming an incel. And there are men shorter than me who are more successful than me, like my cousin, like Tom Cruise, like Vladimir Putin (who isn’t well liked by the sub, but he is successful nonetheless). Being tall helps if you’re male, but you don’t have to be tall.

Teenage boys need to learn skills. Skills like plumbing, coding, carpentry, hunting, repairing, welding, heavy-lifting, driving, cooking, building, mechanics, defence... not necessarily all of them, but pick at least three of them. Teenage girls can learn them as well, but teenage boys especially need to learn these skills so they can feel useful, so they can make a career out of these skills, and so they can learn to keep busy and spend more time out of their thoughts. Whether a boy is masculine or feminine, teach him or find someone to teach him some of these skills. Kurt Hummel can fix a car while being the most effeminate male character on live action television. Learning these skills especially helps short teenage boys to understand that there are alternatives to becoming femboys or incels.

To answer the question, a lot adults can’t see what’s happening because television is not talking about it. Many adults treat the telly like it’s a gospel machine and believe everything the news tells them. If it’s on CNN, BBC, RTÉ or Fox News, it’s real. If it’s not on any of the major news channels, then it’s not real. That’s the mindset of a lot of boomers. And because the telly is not talking about the concerns teenagers have, many boomers and gen x-ers are in the dark.