Gay Men"god cis gay men exhaust me with their masc-obsessed superficiality"

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YILRE-fr2Dw

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

"It was part of the deal!"

I've personally nothing against more feminine styles of dress, but I wouldn't like ridiculous peacocky costumes like this that distract and cover up too much of the male figure. What natural physical aspects of him are people supposed to be drawn to here? He's gotta ask himself what he likes to see from other men, and perhaps apply it to himself. I get a feeling it's not this adornment-fest.

[–]JulienMayfair 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I don't find tons of makeup attractive on anyone, men or women. If you read up on this guy, he states openly that he has a history of psychological distress, and he claims that drag "healed him." He definitely has trauma from being from an Iraqi background and having his mother being extremely upset at his being gay. Like a lot of these people, he's trying to turn dealing with his own issues into some external sociopolitical program.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes. The people who are prone to pathological narcissism. They have unhealthy coping mechanisms which are costly to those around them.

And, drag clearly didn't heal him, it just gave him a way to express symptoms even more visibly.

[–]JulienMayfair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

At the core, narcissists try to feel better about themselves by pretending to be something else. The central coping mechanism is, "Don't look at me. Look at this other thing I pretend to be!" All the other coping mechanisms follow from that.

The paradox is that in "expressing themselves," they're really showing us how much they don't like themselves.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes. That's the saddest part.

They don't understand their own value without all the pomp and circumstance. They think it isn't there.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, that certainly explains it. The dress is an outlet for him and many others. And admittedly people from both sides can overlook this widespread pattern among drag queens, settling on judgements of "progressive!" or "degeneracy!". I saw neither but a ton of emotional baggage hiding under all that garishness. It's an outburst; A tantrum, like wafflegaff said.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He's dressed like a tantrum. You are far more charitable (or subtly facetious) than I; I can't even take that part seriously.