LifestyleWhat's your "dream" wedding?

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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Our friends, a straight couple, wanted to officiate so the male half of the couple got the necessary certification. The wedding ceremony took place in a small stage theater to which we have access (as it has some sentimental associations for all four of us). We invited close friends and (my) family members, about a dozen in all. Then we all went out to a higher-end restaurant (we had booked a room), husband and I paid for everybody. It was very simple, just what we wanted.

Note: we didn't invite my husband's parents because we were not sure they would approve of legal marriage. They are supportive of our relationship but also they are devout Christians, father-in-law has expressed doubts about gay marriage in the past, so we didn't want to put them in an awkward position. Husband hid the fact that we are married for awhile, but though we've never mentioned it, it should be obvious that we are legally connected due to various real estate transactions, insurance issues, etc. over the years.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It sounds like you both had a good time at the wedding! It's always nice to celebrate that with the people whom are near and dear to you. :)

It was very simple, just what we wanted.

I like that a lot! If I were to ever marry, I would want something simple too, with the main focus on my spouse heh. Either just the two of us for the wedding and skipping to honey moon, or having a rad reception with close friends. I have a LOT of family, but not close to them---only my brothers I am close to, they're my best friends.

For now, I have anniversary to use as excuse to party, go out, and spoil my partner lol.

Do you revist place for anniversaries or celebrate your anniversary? Was curious, my parents never celebrated their anniversary and I thought that was a common thing amongst couple's while I was young...but my dad also didn't celebrate holidays and my mother only celebrated catholic holidays and that's it.

Note: we didn't invite my husband's parents because we were not sure they would approve of legal marriage. They are supportive of our relationship but also they are devout Christians, father-in-law has expressed doubts about gay marriage in the past, so we didn't want to put them in an awkward position.

That is considerate of you and understandable. It makes it less awkward for both parties. This sounds cheesy, but. . .hopefully they come around to not feeling awkward about gay marriage. I have a lot of religious relatives that are against it, my mother is one of them, but acts like it's "ok" while making snide remarks. As long as HER kids aren't gay/bi she's happy but woops. Lol

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We don't really celebrate the anniversary. We entirely forgot this year, we were both so busy! But part of it is I don't think either of us feel the need to remember our "one special day" because, honestly, "every day is special" in the sense that we are both pretty satisfied with the relationship/marriage. I mean we have our days of being irritated with each other like every couple but we both seem able to contextualize the experience as just what happens when you live with somebody and around them pretty much 24/7.

Regarding Christian parents, sorry your mother is snide/unsupportive, that is kind of discouraging. MIL and FIL are supportive, treat me as one of the family, but I guess they just have a mental block around the word "marriage".