LifestyleWhat's your "dream" wedding?

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What would you say your "dream" wedding is?

If you're already married, what was your wedding like?

Have you been to a same-sex wedding? What was it like?

What are weddings like in your country?

I never thought in a million years that I would want to ever get married NOR have children... But lo and behold I have a child, though not married.

Probably won't ever get married for both political and personal reasons, though I am fond of looking at wedding pictures and seeing the stories behind it.

For example:

Feel free to discuss in detail if you want about your dream wedding, the wedding you had, or a wedding you've been to.

Edit: If you're like me and don't feel like you would ever get married, I just thought of different questions or you!

How are your anniversary (for when you first met/got into relationship with partner) parties like?

If single, would you celebrate your anniversary with future partners and how do you envision it?

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[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Romantic me would like something like this: https://www.pinterest.it/pin/128423026861401548/

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

È molto romantico! ❤️

I'm sure your lady would love that too! She is lucky to have you. :)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aww, sei un tesoro. Grazie.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 9 insightful - 8 fun9 insightful - 7 fun10 insightful - 8 fun -  (2 children)

On a cruise to the moon. It should be commercially viable long before I find someone to marry

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

Perfect idea...for someone on the run.

Wanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies

👀

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 9 insightful - 6 fun9 insightful - 5 fun10 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

I'll never let them catch me! I'll go all the way Europa and beyond if I have to!

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

  1. I never had a "dream wedding" and neither did my wife.

  2. We did a courthouse wedding 2 months ago, because why not? We were planning to spend our lives together anyway and we decided to make it official. We've been together 4 years and covid, lockdowns, global chaos made us realize a lot of stuff we should have realized sooner. Imo I wouldn't have had it any other way.

  3. I had never been to a same-sex wedding before my own, and neither had my wife.

  4. Weddings in my country are pretty varied. Some people go religious some go secular/court. We're atheists so we went to the courthouse. Some go for a big party others go for a simple dinner. It really depends on the couple.

  5. For our anniversaries we normally walk up to the cafe where we met and sometimes get dinner out. The last one we just stayed in and ordered pizza due to lockdown in our state. We didn't mind, we're both pretty chill.

Ps. Congrats on your (new?) child!

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

You met in a cafe, like normal cafe, like an hetero couple?

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We did! The café was on our campus so that maybe made it easier for us to meet. We're both kind of butchy too so no guessing if the other was gay. I'm shy irl but she was cute af, and after a few months I finally asked her out! Best decision of my life.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I feel you on courthouse wedding, I am not religious either/have no belief. My mother's country is extremely Catholic---she is not happy I have a child before marriage haha. And thanks! Little one will be turning 2 sometime in the fall.

Ooo, you anniversaries sound really romantic and nice! I am jelly. Our anniversary happens to fall on a major holiday haha. But we celebrate it with spending the day together and giving gifts.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Spending the day together and giving gifts is beautiful! Also kudos on raising a young child during covid. That must be hard work.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

I have only ever been to one wedding, heterosexual and arabic, and it was this big party with so much joy. Men and women were separated and lol, I actually liked that. Partying with only women is great.

In France you get legally married at the townhall, the mayor is supposed to do the marrying thing. Then you do whatever you want, that usually implies a party and a photoshoot.

Weddings are emotional, I didn't think I'd be so shaken at my friend's wedding but I was! I used to be very cynical when it comes to the idea of marriage but now that I've witnessed a happy one, I shut my mouth 🤣

(maybe I want that too, one day, okay, I admit)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Only one? Wow. I've been in countless as a kid, all relatives getting married. Always found marriage boring as fuck. And of course. They all were in church, so you have to attend mass too.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Only one :)

I never attended one as a kid because my family is very very small, and all of my relatives are single lol

Plus my parents were kinda anti-social 😂

I've always been told marriages are boring! But I think it's very different when you're older and it's your friend from highschool who's getting married haha

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

You're so lucky. I got many relatives. Two of whom are even called like me. Small family and antisocial parents is beautiful

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've only been to one too and invited to a few but..I move around so much so I wasn't able to attend.

The one I went to is EXACTLY how you described it, it was boring at a Catholic church, reception was no music or dance. :-/ In my country, there will be more music, karaoke, dance, and lots of good food with alcohol. This one, they just sit and talk at reception. The bride was the niece of my aunt(who married my uncle). So I don't really know them all too well...

I've been getting recommendations out of the blue for "Say Yes to the Dress" and it inspired this post hahaha. Ive seen a cool one with two brides(fiancées) both trying on their wedding dresses to compliment one another. I thought it was cute. Here is the video I am talking about: Brides Want to Find Unique Dresses that Work Well Together | Say Yes to the Dress Lancashire .

On TV, they make their weddings look really interesting, I wonder how it looks without the video edits tho, heh.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That's a beautiful couple

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The weddings have seen, not music too. Maybe some, but nothing big like in some culture. Just go to church and then restaurant eating a lot. Boring

[–]Shales123 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm from an Orthodox Jewish family, the men and women are seated separately and it's fucking awesome. The men give boring speeches, and the women just talk straight through it because we're on the other side of the partition and we don't give a fuck

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Our friends, a straight couple, wanted to officiate so the male half of the couple got the necessary certification. The wedding ceremony took place in a small stage theater to which we have access (as it has some sentimental associations for all four of us). We invited close friends and (my) family members, about a dozen in all. Then we all went out to a higher-end restaurant (we had booked a room), husband and I paid for everybody. It was very simple, just what we wanted.

Note: we didn't invite my husband's parents because we were not sure they would approve of legal marriage. They are supportive of our relationship but also they are devout Christians, father-in-law has expressed doubts about gay marriage in the past, so we didn't want to put them in an awkward position. Husband hid the fact that we are married for awhile, but though we've never mentioned it, it should be obvious that we are legally connected due to various real estate transactions, insurance issues, etc. over the years.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It sounds like you both had a good time at the wedding! It's always nice to celebrate that with the people whom are near and dear to you. :)

It was very simple, just what we wanted.

I like that a lot! If I were to ever marry, I would want something simple too, with the main focus on my spouse heh. Either just the two of us for the wedding and skipping to honey moon, or having a rad reception with close friends. I have a LOT of family, but not close to them---only my brothers I am close to, they're my best friends.

For now, I have anniversary to use as excuse to party, go out, and spoil my partner lol.

Do you revist place for anniversaries or celebrate your anniversary? Was curious, my parents never celebrated their anniversary and I thought that was a common thing amongst couple's while I was young...but my dad also didn't celebrate holidays and my mother only celebrated catholic holidays and that's it.

Note: we didn't invite my husband's parents because we were not sure they would approve of legal marriage. They are supportive of our relationship but also they are devout Christians, father-in-law has expressed doubts about gay marriage in the past, so we didn't want to put them in an awkward position.

That is considerate of you and understandable. It makes it less awkward for both parties. This sounds cheesy, but. . .hopefully they come around to not feeling awkward about gay marriage. I have a lot of religious relatives that are against it, my mother is one of them, but acts like it's "ok" while making snide remarks. As long as HER kids aren't gay/bi she's happy but woops. Lol

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We don't really celebrate the anniversary. We entirely forgot this year, we were both so busy! But part of it is I don't think either of us feel the need to remember our "one special day" because, honestly, "every day is special" in the sense that we are both pretty satisfied with the relationship/marriage. I mean we have our days of being irritated with each other like every couple but we both seem able to contextualize the experience as just what happens when you live with somebody and around them pretty much 24/7.

Regarding Christian parents, sorry your mother is snide/unsupportive, that is kind of discouraging. MIL and FIL are supportive, treat me as one of the family, but I guess they just have a mental block around the word "marriage".

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My husband and I got married by ourselves at the courthouse - it was kind of a "quicky" wedding because we were trying to get him onto my health insurance plan and so I was just like, "Okay, well let's get married." We made an appointment and on the day, got a little dressed up and went to the courthouse. They had a little chapel of sorts set up there with a handful of seats, and my husband and I stood under a little arch and repeated the vows that the Clerk's office employee asked us to repeat. Then we kissed, signed our papers and got them notarized, and went about our day.

I remember my best friend's wedding to her husband, with probably a hundred or more attendees, an outdoor wedding under a large oak tree in the middle of a gorgeous bright green field, with a reception at an old mansion on the property afterwards, open bar and the whole nine yards. And it was beautiful and wonderful and amazing, and I told myself that when I got married, I wanted a big beautiful ceremony like that.

But I wouldn't change my wedding for the world. There's something so special about that moment being just the two of us (and a government employee) that just makes me so happy when I think back on it.