I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I don't have anywhere else to talk about this or people who might understand, so I'm giving this a shot.
Basically, this year I've started a new degree. A fresh new start on several levels. It's totally different from my previous degree, which makes it even more exciting. I was waiting so much for the moment I get to have a group of friends again.
So, I've started meeting new people, getting close and hanging out with some... you know the normal... The pandemic has slode friendships down, but today I finally was able to hang out with them... I was so excited at first... Until I was actually there. With them. Talking and hanging with them.
I always felt lonely, even though I was literally with them. I felt like they didn't understand me or what I was feeling. They don't know I'm gay. I feel like its a very small part of me. I don't want to tell them, on one hand. On the other, the love topic came up several times and they cared about what I thought and wanted to know about me. They would notice I would get quiet at times... I mean I don't know what to say when the girls are talking about guys... And if I start talking about girls, they'll realise I'm gay, and I don't know if I'm ready for that. So it was honestly hard for me to feel like I fitted in.
I suddenly missed having gay friends, despite liking my current (straight) friends. Because I feel like gay people know exactly what I'm feeling in this context. The feeling of inadequacy I feel on a daily basis because the world is majorly heterosexual. The lying by omissoon, the coming out over and over again, and so on...
Sorry if this was too depressive, but I've never felt this lonely feeling before around friends. Does anyone have some advice or has felt the same at some point?
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