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[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The thing is I don't even like the meaning of this word and the insistence to make me identify with it since I don't consider myself trans either. I have no idea what it means to identify with my birth sex, I only accepted it's the sex I was born as. If I was born as a different sex I'd also accept it as my reality but I literally have no gender identity to align with my biological reality. I just don't care. I don't see my gender as a part of my identity and it's fine, because what makes us a person are interests, our personality, our talents and skills... not an esoteric concept gender. Making me say I'm cis makes me think I succumb to a stereotype associated with my sex and it's a center of my person. I hate it. Makes my skin crawl.

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I literally have no gender identity to align with my biological reality.

I think TRA's are promulgating the idea that everyone is going to somehow "feel" their gender. When of course, you go back 10 years, we had no popular concept of "feeling" one's gender. Then you have people who are biting off this rhetoric, realizing they don't "feel" their gender, and thus label themselves agender. When really the premise is flawed in the first place, agender person or not.

I have no idea what it means to identify with my birth sex, I only accepted it's the sex I was born as.

Would you agree that being asexual changes your relationship with your sex? You've got this sexed body that isn't particularly useful or meaningful for you?

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Would you agree that being asexual changes your relationship with your sex?

Certainly I think so my lack of sexuality changes things. I can imagine that maybe if I was straight, bi or gay I could be possibly more attached to my birth sex than I already am. That's my suspicion though. Well, technically the only reason sexes exist in nature is because of procreation, sex. So there is no use for that if you're entirely disinterested. Maybe asexuality (the absolute form of it, not these weird romantic sex-positive asexuals) can also make your relation to your birth sex different from the others though not to the point you go full transsexual. I don't trust that much in statistics thrown around in such spaces but I remember one saying that asexuals have the highest amount of people identifying as trans or non-binary (around 35%). I suspect there is many factors for it like being so dysphoric that you're asexual-like, being just an impressionable teen collecting new labels like Pokémons and then maybe some actual asexuals, who may feel different and overthink their relation to gender by assuming they must be beyond gender or what... No wonder there are so called triple A people - Aromantic Asexual Agender. Still I think this is just silly. You feel differently about your gender but you're not distressed around it? Then why making it a center of who you are?

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I remember one saying that asexuals have the highest amount of people identifying as trans or non-binary

Two points.

One, if you've got a sexed body, but you only understand, intellectually, what people do with those sorts of things, it certainly might not cement as well that you're this sex, as it does for het/homo/bi, insofar as it is your sex, and your compulsion to use it, that creates an identity with regards to other sexed people.

Second, about trans. In the case of autogynephilia, roughly 10% of them identify as asexual. The reason, however, is that of this proportion, their sexuality is 100% wrapped up in the paraphilia, and nothing is left over for interest in other people. This is better called analloerotic. An-without. Allo-other. Without eroticism for others, not asexual. They have a sexuality, it's just very atypical.