It's because LGBTQABCD community doesn't really care about trans people. They just use them as fuel for their political gains. A nice justification for pushing more and more onto people.

What trans people truly need is to grow up. Emotionally and mentally. And to have that, they need to be left alone to learn how to deal with their own issues that they'll face as trans people. But leaving them to grow would mean that LGBTQWERTY community is not needed anymore – and that would mean less money, less media attention, less space for lobbying and overall less political power for those in charge of it. Why do you think they're shoving ridiculous pronounce issues into everyone's throats? Because they believe in that? They're not stupid or delusional. They just understand that real problems have been solved already. So they have to make some problem up. And because woke people are dumb as fuck, they bought it and keep spreading it.

What you've mentioned, that "crush on a straight friend" thing, is exactly how each gay man grows. Most of us had a straight friend crush and we had to find a way to free ourselves from it. With that, we learn to overcome the thrist for all men and to focus only on those available to us. Only then we can actually start having a dating or sex life. You grow and learn only through struggle.

It's actually sad to see trans people being denied that.