I'm not sure if it's just me, but I've always been fascinated how nobody calls out large age gaps in (or underage + of age) relationships when it's a same sex couple. How come it's considered creepy/not great when it's a hetero relationship but sweet when it's homo?
Let me give a couple of examples. There is almost a 30 year age gap between Stephen Fry and his husband, yet every newspaper was commenting on how wonderful it was that Stephen Fry had finally found love. Sarah Paulson's wife Holland Taylor, an well liked actress in her own right, is 32 years older than her. Everyone online thought it was 'cute'. My final example is a fictional one but a big one at that. Call Me By Your Name was lauded as a romantic masterpiece, but everyone seems to ignore that the main character is 17 whereas his love interest is a 24 year old man. Not once did I see any vocal criticism that this is promoting pedophilia or that anything in the book can be construed as coercion, since the character wasn't old enough to legally consent to sex.
Now let's compare this with a recent example of a large age gap in a heterosexual relationship and the response: Florence Pugh and Zac Braff. It's a smaller gap of 21 years, compared to the other real life homosexual examples, and yet people were talking about it for weeks, calling him cradle snatcher and other things. Had he been with a man of the same age as Florence, would the response have been a flurry of coos over how cute they are together?
Any else see this as an issue? Why is there a resounding silence or indifference when it comes to significant age gaps in gay relationships? What are your thoughts on this?
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