Men's Issues"DAE think guys might mistake me for a woman during sex just because I have breasts?"

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[–]Criticallacitirc 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Both trans men & trans women are very concerned about breasts. Breasts are the first thing to go or to get. In Trans logic, breasts are gendered but penises & vaginas aren't. How many times have we heard some women have penis? Some men have vaginas? But we never hear some men have breasts.

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That's a really good point. It probably has something to do with how breasts are so sexualized in western societies. So transmen want to escape that and transwomen want to embrace it. And also the fact that most trans people want to have some semblance of a sex life so they know they need to keep their genitals intact. Hence the whole 'men can have vaginas and women can have penises. Because I need to get off somehow.'

[–]Criticallacitirc 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A trans person told me it's because breasts are more visible & people can't see your genitals.

Which to me raises more questions. I would think if we're to believe the whole I have a female brain in a male body (and vice versa) , then the incongruence/dysphoria would be coming from an internal source and your entire body would cause you distress. The idea that the dysphoria comes only from how others perceive you, seems to indicate it's societal combined with self esteem issues.