Men's Issues"DAE think guys might mistake me for a woman during sex just because I have breasts?"

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[–][deleted] 46 insightful - 23 fun46 insightful - 22 fun47 insightful - 23 fun -  (8 children)

OP is worried her breasts will give her way as a woman. No mention of her whole entire vagina.

Does it hurt being that stupid?

[–]Criticallacitirc 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Both trans men & trans women are very concerned about breasts. Breasts are the first thing to go or to get. In Trans logic, breasts are gendered but penises & vaginas aren't. How many times have we heard some women have penis? Some men have vaginas? But we never hear some men have breasts.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

That's a really good point. It probably has something to do with how breasts are so sexualized in western societies. So transmen want to escape that and transwomen want to embrace it. And also the fact that most trans people want to have some semblance of a sex life so they know they need to keep their genitals intact. Hence the whole 'men can have vaginas and women can have penises. Because I need to get off somehow.'

[–]Criticallacitirc 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A trans person told me it's because breasts are more visible & people can't see your genitals.

Which to me raises more questions. I would think if we're to believe the whole I have a female brain in a male body (and vice versa) , then the incongruence/dysphoria would be coming from an internal source and your entire body would cause you distress. The idea that the dysphoria comes only from how others perceive you, seems to indicate it's societal combined with self esteem issues.

[–]dreamgermsbisexual nightmare 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

It certainly hurts the rest of us.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seriously. I thought my patience had evaporated long ago when I peaked but after superstraight I'm so, so, sooo done with these people.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Probably not.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Surely the sheer amount of necrosis her neurons are undergoing is giving her headaches at least. But maybe you're right. If this level of stupidity were painful it wouldn't be so common.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, I can't say for sure. I've wondered sometimes. It seems like a terrible experience to be stuck in if you are aware of it, but we're contemplating someone who seems not to be.

It's a really baffling condition to me. Which is somewhat ironic.

[–]SapphicFox 31 insightful - 11 fun31 insightful - 10 fun32 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

No they'll probably accurately determine that you're a woman.

Mostly due to the fact that you're a woman.

[–]censorshipment 25 insightful - 17 fun25 insightful - 16 fun26 insightful - 17 fun -  (1 child)

😂 suspension of disbelief during sex! I mean, it happens... gotta find the right partner who is into roleplaying or delusional as fuck.

I watch "FtM" porn... none of them look like men. Look like women with hormonal issues.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

gotta find the right partner who is into roleplaying or delusional as fuck.

Or...drug them? Anything seems possible with this crowd.

[–]ThrowMeAway2879[S] 22 insightful - 11 fun22 insightful - 10 fun23 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

That sub is like the gift that keeps on giving. Do they not hear themselves?

This response is also great: https://www.reddit.com/r/gaytransguys/comments/m7oliw/im_nervous_about_sex_because_i_havent_had_top/grfsqcx/

"Just keep your shirt on! Nobody's gonna notice!"

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

They love saying that their identity reflects who they truly are, but then they need to hide everything about themselves in order to do anything intimate with anyone else because they know that straight men will be attracted to a woman before a gay man ever would be

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 15 insightful - 6 fun15 insightful - 5 fun16 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

Why the fuck can they not just fuck straight guys? It's not like there aren't hordes of thirsty straight guys willing to fuck just about any woman.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because it isn't validating enough. If other people don't validate their identity, is their identity real?

Spoiler alert: their identity isn't real. Any identity that exists only in the way other people think of you is not a real thing. Consentual sex should be consentual sex, regardless of what they think you are. But these bitches demand that the only demographic of men that wants nothing to do with them be the ones to fuck them because it "proves" to them that they're actually men.

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 21 insightful - 8 fun21 insightful - 7 fun22 insightful - 8 fun -  (2 children)

Uhm, I'm sorry but "man boobs" are completely different from "lady boobs" and should not be compared.

"Some cis guys LOVE man boobs, so they'll think your breasts and vagina are just great I bet!"

Please, for the love of God, step away from the internet.

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, they're called straight men. They are ~99% of the male population.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No boobs of any kind for me, thanks but no thanks.

[–]loveSloaneSuperDuperBi 19 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 7 fun20 insightful - 8 fun -  (2 children)

“Sometimes, it can be helpful to frame it as someone you love, rather than yourself. If you were dating a boyfriend that had a big chest, would you see him as any less of a man for that?“

Omfg

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 15 insightful - 6 fun15 insightful - 5 fun16 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

I would not be dating that guy to begin with. Sue me, I'm transphobic and fat-shaming.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol- I want op to answer this most of all, because trans never use the same standard they force on others for their own "preferences".

[–]MatthewofHouseGraySuper straight ally :) 20 insightful - 4 fun20 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

1: Wouldn't the man notice her vagina which is obviously a trait which women have?

2: Isn't she technically raping the would be person by misleading them on who she is? She's basically deceiving a person into having sex with her when it comes down to her sex. The would be person would think that she's a male and she obviously isn't.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You know what’s interesting. We hear a lot about transbian’s fear of violence with respect to having their trans status revealed when lesbians pose zero risk to them. I don’t think I ever hear from the Fujoshi types that they fear violence from men, just rejection of sex and a relationship. And they’re the ones trying to dupe men. I find this party notable, if true. Does anyone else have counter-evidence? This is consistent with their desire to go after gay men being based on seeing gay men as soft and less threatening partners.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, I would argue that the transbians are projecting their own violent tendencies onto lesbians. Maybe the other trans groups have a more realistic idea of the danger they face, but transbians are so angry and violent for some reason that in their never ending quest to justify themselves as females, assume that all lesbians are as violent and angry as they are.

[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's a good point. Gay men I know could certainly kick your ass if need be but they usually won't do shit but be catty until provoked. I dated a gay man and did almost get into a fist fight with another. These people clearly don't know gay men, just the ones they see on the tv!

Also, wtf when I found out my ex was gay I did feel horrible and it took a while to get over. I am pretty masculine myself but I never expected him to stay with me. He did cheat on me that complicated things the most, more than him being gay.

We are good now and he went thru many boyfriends and even a husband and now it seems he is happy with his new boyfriend.

It is hard enough being gay, quit making this shit even more complicated. Gay men don't owe you a damn thing.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think that getting tricked into having sex with vagina would trigger the kind of revulsion and shame that would lead to violence. In most cases it would simply trigger floppy-dick syndrome and that would be the end of it.

If it were ever to happen to me (it won't, I'm happily and monogamously married) I'd actually be a little fascinated and go through with it just to see what it was like. But I probably wouldn't call the person back for a second date, sorry but I like le cocque too much.

[–]PassionateIntensity 13 insightful - 11 fun13 insightful - 10 fun14 insightful - 11 fun -  (1 child)

"Honey, do my double D tits and dripping wet pussy make me seem like a woman?" It's the new "does this dress make my ass look fat?" boyfriend test.

[–]fuck_reddit 5 insightful - 7 fun5 insightful - 6 fun6 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

“Honey, does this binder make me a man?”

[–]Lessom 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s all about trying to deceive and lying in order to get into someone’s pants for these people. How about being honest and gaining consent.

[–]JulienMayfair 14 insightful - 7 fun14 insightful - 6 fun15 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that a lot of these commenters haven't had much actual sex.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 9 insightful - 9 fun9 insightful - 8 fun10 insightful - 9 fun -  (1 child)

In my experience I'm just pretty straight forward with the cis men I sleep with. I tell them "my chest isn't very sexual to me and I bind" and they just ignore it.

Sure Jan

[–]Criticallacitirc 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

These girls are going on Grindr & getting fucked by the guys who clearly state they are looking for FTMs. Since if was Grindr that's clearly validating that it was a gay man who fucked them & not a straight man. 🙄

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 5 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I mean...let's hide a car in the closet and pretend it's pajamas when someone notices? F.F.S.

[–]QueenOfTheNorthSuperLesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"it also helps that I'm dating another trans guy"

SMH lesbians in denial... Sad AF

[–]markiemarcus 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I must say, that sub Reddit is new to me and I really wish I hadn't scrolled. There's a handful of posts that get dangerously close to a real self-diagnosis, based on acknowledging their own behavioural patterns or those noted by their therapists...

...and it's immediately shut down in the replies as toxic terfery. It's really fucking sad. Egging each other on, so to speak. Dear dear.