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LifestyleA close friend of mine has decided she's non-binary now and I don't know how to react

submitted 3 years ago by sunzzy from self.LGBDropTheT

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[–]ShotTopic 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)

You have to pick your battles. If you value this friendship just say "they" when required, or use their first name more often if you're hesitant. There's a difference between discussing your concerns about groups/trends online and having a personal interaction with someone you care about that can get hurt.

Personally, I don't have a problem with using people's chosen pronouns offline. For me, this stuff doesn't happen often and I don't care enough to stress about it offline; plus I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. If I feel weird about it or struggle to change someone's pronouns when speaking because of how I perceive them (such as someone who doesn't pass at all or only very recently came out), I just avoid using pronouns in general about them.

But that's just how I handle things, I'm not one for confrontation and have a hard time being purposely rude. If you want to burn this bridge that's up to you.