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[–]dramasexual 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Honestly my opinion on it is it doesn't even matter if your reasons for having racial preferences are racist. Treat everyone with respect, but sexual attraction is both involuntary and intensely personal. Nobody is owed attraction, and who you're into and why is not up for public debate. And I say that as someone without any real racial preferences tbh. I'm just really bothered by this penchant by wokescolds to pick at people not being attracted to whoever as if its any of their business. Rapey af.

[–][deleted] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's how I feel too. Why would I waste my time guilt tripping a racist for refusing to date me? And I'm someone who does have racial dating preferences. I will say I do enjoy when I'm talking to a TRA and they pull this card, only for me to say 'actually I'm black and that's not racist'. They trip over themselves every time. 'W-W-WELL!! Y-you don't speak for all black people!' Cool. You don't speak for all trans people either then.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I do have a racial preferance, which doesn't mean I don't like any races, because I do. I never understood people who can't be into an entire race. It's just skin color. Cute people come in all colors. That beign said you cannot force anyone to date anyone. People can reject people for any reasons, even if they're very dumb and superficial like race or height.

[–]dramasexual 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I think it's stupid to even call something like that "dumb and superficial." If you're not attracted to someone you're not attracted to them. It's not like people are making some sort of conscious decision to be turned off by some particular physical feature. Your sexual attraction is not a moral judgment. It's weird to be shirty about what people are not attracted to.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, it was because of meaningless traits saying nothing about a person. But yeah, you cannot control attraction and that's not a moral judgement.