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[–]begonia_skies 29 insightful - 2 fun29 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Ack, some of the comments go on about how lesbians are so pure and so perfect, I really hate that crap, no actual lesbian with any life experience talks that way. Lesbian relationships are just as complex and difficult at times as all other relationships. We don't sit around all day painting our nails with rainbows in totally cute sleep attire blowing hearts out of our ass. We argue, get jealous, cheat, get depressed, have bad days, etc. I really don't know why they seem to believe that lesbians have these perfect lives, I've been a lesbian my whole life and it's not easy, at all.

[–]oyasuminasai50 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I think a lot of it is people, mainly teenagers, who hate themselves and are allured by the idea of a) blaming all their woes on gender dysphoria / transphobia and not these things that are more abstract and intangible like poor socialization, social anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, etc. and b) allured by the idea of reinventing themselves. '

They think they hate themselves because they're trans. But I think they hate themselves for some of those reasons I mentioned. There's no other explanation in my mind for why the most common onset on gender dysphoria has shifted towards adolescence.

On top of this they get what appears to be an affirming, embracing community (i.e. the T community and LGBTQ community more broadly) of people who will approve of them instantly.

[–]julesburm1891 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The trans community seems to be a lot of people who think the grass is greener on the other side. Life is largely not very fun. It’s mostly drudgery and struggle that you push through to get to some sort of happiness. That won’t change if you’re a man or a woman. It won’t change if you’re gay, straight, or bi.

[–]oyasuminasai50 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I agree. I do think we're playing fast and loose with people's mental health because doctors want to feel and be seen as saviors. And frankly, as someone who's always been a little GNC, if I were a teenager in this day and age, and if my friends were coming out as trans or non-binary, I probably would too.

[–]usehername 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. Plus, and doctor with a shred of morals or competency avoids that field like the plague.