but I suppose the difference here (or, at least, one of the differences) is that we're all in agreement that only a very small group has the right to use the n-word in its new, 'reclaimed' guise. Like so many LGB-related things, this hasn't been sufficiently gatekept (or entitled people just don't care about boundaries) and now anyone can identify as 'queer' and since that's part of their 'identity' (immortal soul) I then don't get to be offended when they use that word to refer to the rest of us.

Yeah, this pisses me off so much. It's such bullshit.

Dull, straight, white people have been told for almost a decade now that they are the root of all evil in the world, so is it entirely surprising that some of them would choose to try and knock out at least one of those rungs?

Honestly, that's an accurate observation and I wonder why we don't talk about that more, now that you mention it. Being LGB, as a demographic, is much easier to take over than some others because it's not physically visible, sexual orientation is invisible even though gender nonconformity is sometimes a tipoff, but even then it's pretty easy to pretend to be GNC or at least easy enough to fool most people. Add to that the fact that we're a really small minority, statistically speaking, and... well, it's almost unsurprising.