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[–]reluctant_commenter 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I would love this! I keep seeing people be like "I had to get off saidit because I need to take a break from this extremely depressing material" and it might be nice to have something like this.

Wouldn't mind a flair for posts, either.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

Christ yes I was thinking this to myself earlier. It's always nice to be around like-minded individuals (without it devolving into an echo chamber) but some of things that are posted here are just such hot nonsense (as in, TRA nonsense) I have those 'that's enough internet for today' moments pretty regularly.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I have those 'that's enough internet for today' moments pretty regularly.

Haha yeah, same. Every once in a while I take a week or two break from Saidit...I only made this account really for this subsaidit and occasionally check out the GC one but feel I can no longer relate to that sub---long story. :x

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

occasionally check out the GC one but feel I can no longer relate to that sub---long story. :x

I'm curious to know why! Feel free to pm me if it's too personal to share it here with everyone. If you want of course! I 'm curious because I also started to not relate to that sub and now I also just check it out occasionally lmao.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I may or may not have pissed off a bunch of radfems lol. Not specifically on the GC subsaidit.

Also...I noticed a lot of biphobia, hate towards femme lesbians, and misandrist comments that make me uncomfortable. One particular comment that bothered me was them saying "Women shouldn't give birth, because they might end up raising another oppressor" and them complaining about raising boys into men...kinda...messed up. I have a son myself so I did take that a certain way.

Then saying all men are rapist predators and generalizing. Also shaming some women for their choice in dressing more feminine and wearing makeup. To be honest, I'm not feminine, I'm smack dab in the middle...people hear my voice and call me a "sir" first--when I had short hair, I'd get that a lot. Plus I'm rather tall. THOUGH...the women I pursued were feminine, and I like it lol. I'm glad they're comfortable in their own skin.

Lastly...dealt with some hypocrites that talked crap about me being gender nonconforming and being a detransed FtM, saying I don't know anything and talking over me. Basically, I don't agree with ANY transitioning, though I have sympathy for normal trans(hint NORMAL TRANS PEOPLE, not TRAs). They twisted my words around saying I'm heartless, and because I detransitioned, I'm biased like what??? They only like homosexual transexual MtF and use them as a token instead of focusing on the issue, but hate all other trans people and mock them, pretty hypocritical to pick and choose...

Very american centric too in their views, and they'll try to correct you lol.

So that's pretty much my experience. I don't consider myself "gender critical" anymore, I thought it wasn't related to feminism,I thought it meant someone who believed in TWO biological sexes and that was that but that's not what it means. Kinda another reason why I don't align or associate myself with any ideology really....

DISCLAIMER: there are some nice radfems, of course there's some nice people in any ideology, I just don't agree with everything they say...Similar to me being non-religious, I don't agree with anything theists say, but there's some nice ones and I don't hate lol.

Edit: word

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you for your detailed answer. Not only do I agree with everything you said, but also my experience is similar to yours. I'm not GNC but I'm a femme lesbian and I don't like their "femininity repulsion". I also don't like their hatred towards men... And in my case I noticed lesbophobia as well (interesting that there is also biphobia there!) there which made me uncomfortable. Basically all the reasons you mentioned I can empathize. I also don't consider myself gc.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Disparaging femininity is misogyny.

They can't smell their own hypocrisy. And this isn't the only way in which they can't. Check, please.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That is unfortunately true. We've made a community where we all have hatred of a current situation in common, so that's what most posts will end up being about: the situation we all hate.

It would be nice to see some more optimism mixed in there. If we were making better progress defeating gender ideology, that could be the optimism, but it's a bit slow, so some posts a but less related to gender ideology may be the help we need

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"I had to get off saidit because I need to take a break from this extremely depressing material"

I am one of those to be honest haha, after awhile it's kinda tiring. I had to deal with TQ+ daily at one point at workplace, so kinda came her for venting/ranting and for sanity. Now that I don't work at TQ+ job...When I see a lot of those TRA posts where they're being cunts or dicks to the LGB, it's disheartening.

[–]NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void[M] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Us mods are of the belief that you all should post that type of content whenever you want! If everyone would prefer a certain day though, or making a recurring thread, or whatever ... let us know! We'll watch here for your thoughts and ideas :)

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'll try and post more often when I get a chance! Maybe that might help with a bit of balance. I just don't want to end up spamming with my posts. :(

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself of course, but the feedback I've seen about your posts is quite good! People usually enjoy your posts quite a lot, I certainly do! It brings some balance to this sub, and we can bound over the most random trivial yet essential things in life!

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I’m all for this. We need a bit of bleach now and then.

Maybe we can promote subs on Saidit that have nothing to do with politics. Get those subs built up to get more people to migrate over here from Reddit.

[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ohhh!! This is good!

I would probably want to have or make some sort of LGBgamer subsaidit or LGBMovieBuffs(not necessarily LGB related---but just us discussing movies or shows) haha. I think that'd be fun.

I believe /u/reluctant_commenter had ideas too for different subs related to LGB.

Wouldn't mind if it's non-LGB related too. Just any cool rec is nice.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

For non-LGB related subs, I was thinking of subreddits about smartphones, dangerous designs, conspiracy theories, animals, history and so on.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

<Maybe we can have one where it's just funny LGB memes, jokes, positive news, LGB victory type posts, etc.>

this should be all the time. its just that since this is the only place to rant, we get alot of tra nonsense posts. We need to post other stuff, all the time.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Great idea!!

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Tumblrinaction has sanity sundays, so I'd be interested in something similar to that.