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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Oddly enough, a lot of the stigma towards bisexual men comes from straight women. Straight women love to coo over gay men and be 'fag hags' but when it comes to bisexual men, they act like these men are covered in poo. Their two biggest complaints are "I could never be with a man who takes it up the ass" (and yet you drool over gay boys???) and "he will cheat on me with some guy, they always do!" (like a straight man can't cheat on you with some woman??) and I also see a lot of "who knows what diseases he has?" (like straight men don't have diseases??)

I've tried really hard in the past to promote bisexual men as amazing sex partners to women (a man who knows what being penetrated feels like, and what being with a man feels like, is more likely to be gentle and attentive to a woman's needs blah blah) and I've managed to convince some women to re-examine their prejudices, but it's an uphill battle. Closeted bisexual and gay men who marry women and cheat on them really ruin it for the bisexual men who just want to find one person and be monogamous.

Anyway, let me not talk on behalf of bi men, this is just my experiences watching from the outside.

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

Straight women love to coo over gay men and be 'fag hags' but when it comes to bisexual men, they act like these men are covered in poo. Their two biggest complaints are "I could never be with a man who takes it up the ass" (and yet you drool over gay boys???) and "he will cheat on me with some guy, they always do!" (like a straight man can't cheat on you with some woman??)

Okay that is so strange. I have firsthand heard so many straight women be like "omg I love gay men" that I would think they'd be on board for bisexual men...

Maybe they have such an idealized view of gay men that they think gay men "don't take it up the ass" and only like, hold hands or some shit, lol.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

These straight women tend to only like “camp” gay men. And I’m not talking about effeminate gay men, but gay men who obsess over fashion, drag queens, musicals, hairdressing, pride parades, romance flicks, shallow music and interior decorating, while talking in a stereotypical lispy voice. These fag-hags find the buttsecks gross, but they still want their pet homosexuals to be their servants and validate them. These fag hags wouldn’t be interested in friendships with gay men who are masculine, or effeminate gay men who think for themselves, because those gay men aren’t “tame”. Those gay men aren’t “neutered”. When a man is bisexual, he’s fucking, so he’s not “tame”.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

Yes either the camp ones or the really pretty ones, and with the pretty ones it's like something wild happens to their brains. All logic and reason disappears. They know the dude is gay, they know they have no chance, but they still follow him around like a slobbering puppy and get intensely jealous when any other girl tries to talk to him.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do they get jealous when another man talks to the pretty gay guy?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

No, that's "sssoooo cuuuuute"

(and then go home and cry at night into their pillows probably)

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Just as I suspected.