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[–]censorshipment 8 insightful - 7 fun8 insightful - 6 fun9 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

You should also ask for race/ethnicity/nationality.

The black "queer"/LBGT+ community is so different from the white "queer"/LGBT+ community in the USA. I've lived in three very liberal cities (such as Miami in 2019) and haven't encountered the "trans cult" in real life among black people. Yes, there is a vocal minority of black libfem TRAs online (especially on Reddit), but I've never heard anyone say "trans women are women, and trans men are men" in real life. The blacklesbians subreddit is not polluted with black men larping as lesbians... I never even seen anyone mention that they're trans/nonbinary there.

As a black lesbian radfem and atheist, I primarily focus on black people's rights and secondarily focus women's rights (I really can't stand being allies with white women... they silent "women of color"). Being a sexual minority is the last thing on my mind as far as rights go... but I do worry about gnc-phobia and the gnc-to-trans/nonbinary pipeline.

I don't support marriage, adoption nor surrogacy in general... not for anyone, not even for straight people.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

the lesbian founders of BLM were very pro trans, as they are libfems. there was a lot of language on their websie about supporting black trans women.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

1) How would you align yourself or consider yourself and why?

Unaligned; because I don't feel any "movement" is the "right" one nor represents both my individual needs, but also my desires for a better world. Generally, even those who do good also have many bad beliefs that outweigh the benefits. (Ie: Conservative parties being anti LGBT/anti "postmodernist" but also being discriminatory against the poor or against women's rights, radical feminists/gender critical being against postmodernism but also being hateful to people with mental illnesses, sexist, and intersex people, left leaning parties caring about poor people & believe in more wealth equality but shit everywhere with LGBT policies and are discriminatory in other ways)

2) Do you feel that the ideology you follow helps you in a sense of your sexual orientation?

Not a single ideology helps with that. All of them are very unfriendly one way or another. Mainstream leftists see homosexuals as a way to milk entertainment, "woke points" or money, Radical Feminists view males as degenerates & overglorify homosexual to the point of threatening and putting down people who struggle with it, conservative groups tend to rely too heavily on gender roles and the pro-gay ones are too pro-gay and insist that people like me need to take testosterone to become Manly Men and also, tend to be sexist.

3) Are some of you ex-christians, ex-MRAs, ex-liberal, ex-TRAs, etc? What was your turning point?

I was raised Catholic and I am both ex liberal and ex Gender Critical. For religion I don't think I ever really believed, I questioned it ever since I was young. Weirdly enough I was also indoctrinated with leftist beliefs since childhood, for example being taught that people can change sex and I stupidly took that as fact until I was older. I was "casually" pro LGBT for a while because I believed that it was the "right" thing to support, however, once I ended up being homosexual myself and reached my early 20s I went back on that and did a full turn, now I am against pretty much all LGBT and everything I casually thought I supported. I think transgenderism is morally unacceptable and is a form of abuse in many cases, and I think homosexuality is often more sinister than people make it out to be, having suffered through the experience myself. It is not about "love and tolerance" and it infuriates me that LGBT activism is all about that, when homosexual people are suffering but we're told to shut up and deal with it or else we're bigots... to ourselves.

As for Gender Critical, fortunately that one is start. I think I started reading into GC stuff when I was around 20. Yes it was female focused but this was back when I was a loser and hated myself for being a guy (as well as being intersex) so I thought they were Brave Strong Women(tm) fighting for the right thing. But it quickly got more and more toxic and I can't believe I ever supported that shit. I guess my breaking point was when I was breaking my back to try and help them, get involved when they asked for allies, participate in discussions etc, only for them to call me names and accuse me of fetishism and being a sexual predator solely because I was a GNC & intersex male. Especially on subs like itsafetish where I had a very long post history in it, and constantly voiced my distaste of trans fetishists and how they hurt people like me too, only for the radfem users to accuse me of the same thing. I also made no attempt to hide that I was gay & complained about it a lot but I had radfems tell me that I wanted to rape/abuse women which makes no sense.

Gender Critical guys are also a pain in the ass and constantly say hurtful things, they've tried to encouraged me to do something akin to "transition" ironically enough, because like radfems they cant differentiate intersex from "crossdressing trans male" so they kept telling me that I needed to inject myself with synthetic testosterone and become a "real man" or else I'd never be happy, as well as calling me some actually homophobic names and making inappropriate assumptions about my sex life.

I also have seen women chased out of GC spaces because they had a mental illness, came from a different country, questioned something, or were straight/bi. The toxicity towards women who are attracted to males is disgusting, radfems will screech incessantly about how being a lesbian is so hard and they didn't choose it, but they act like women are choosing to be straight/bi just to "oppress them." They really do seem like female incels if you start comparing them.

4) What are your thoughts on religious or spiritual LGB and T members? Do you meet many very often?

Honestly religious LGBT people seem easier to tolerate, especially if they have some kind of religious guilt. I don't really believe in sin but in a way, someone having those beliefs forces them to look at their own behavior and be self-critical. While as complete atheists who believe nothing is bad tend not to be very self aware when it comes to sexuality and identity, most likely because they are surrounded by a hugbox that never tells them no.

But I don't often see them, mostly because I assume they keep it to themselves and don't announce it as much.

5) Thoughts on Gay Marriage, Adoption, and Surrogacy?

Undecided but probably against, against, and very against oh my god that shit should be illegal. I could get into my reasons but that would be a very, VERY long post I don't have space for in a single comment, so, if anyone is that curious, feel free to message me about it.

The TL;DR is -

  1. I don't agree with marriage as a whole and generally think it should be abolished
  2. I do not believe 99% of homosexual people are stable enough to raise a child well and I absolutely would not trust myself around a child in the fear I might pass on my unhealthy behaviors
  3. Surrogacy is not that different from prostitution; it's like using women's bodies as objects. It's also pretty shitty that exists and I think it's more reason why I disagree with gay adoption, because it disturbs me that so many people would rather have a stranger make them a biological child than adopt one. They don't care about the child itself, I think it's just a control thing or they want to "fit in." Someone who really wanted to care for a child would not care whether it was biologically theirs or an existing child in need.

6) Do you have particular views on left-wing/liberal LGB vs right-wing/conservative LGB?

Ehh... there's not much difference if I'm being brutally honest. I'd say conservative LGB are more likely to be "traditional" in a gender sense and believe in a warped reality, so, they might be pro gay but they may also tell you that gay men all need to be hyper-masculine and embrace MAN THINGS and avoid nasty icky girly things. On the flip side, though, liberal LGB are way too forgiving of things and tend to support stuff I consider dangerous, such as prostitution, polyamory, extreme fetishes etc.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

1) How would you align yourself or consider yourself and why?

not sure what you are asking... gay? american? left leaning democrat?

2) Do you feel that the ideology you follow helps you in a sense of your sexual orientation?

I don't believe in the critical queer theory nonsense, and all marxist deconstruction that comes from it. Reading GC reddit helped me understand what was going on, as well as critics of QT.

3) Are some of you ex-christians, ex-MRAs, ex-liberal, ex-TRAs, etc? What was your turning point?

moving away from what is now called the left, and the change in the LGB community os the start of it. when I questioned the trans narrative I started questioning other stuff

4) What are your thoughts on religious or spiritual LGB and T members? Do you meet many very often?

I don't think being lgbt should separate you from a belief in god or participating in religion if you so desire to.

5) Thoughts on Gay Marriage, Adoption, and Surrogacy? Pro gay marriage and adoption... still thing about surrogacy

6) Do you have particular views on left-wing/liberal LGB vs right-wing/conservative LGB?

Sad there is another division forming but i see more separation base on that happening. People really care who you vote for lol

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