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[–]DefinitelyNotJannatPussy connoisseur 32 insightful - 2 fun32 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Idk if my opinion is popular or what but i think it's totally ok to not want to date someone if they are fat (but don't be rude to that person!) . I'd prefer a partner who actually cared about their body. Most people who scream 'fatphobia' usually are too lazy for that

[–]dramasexual 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

It's okay to not want to date someone for any reason at all. Who you want to fuck isn't up for public debate.

[–]DefinitelyNotJannatPussy connoisseur 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Agreed

[–]insta 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'd prefer a partner who actually cared about their body.

The "fatphobia" crowd also forgets that being fit to some/most people is also a lifestyle. Loads of people go to the gym regularly or go for a run or ride a bike for hours on end. I'm an avid cyclist and I would love to find a partner who shares my hobby and will go cycling with me. If you can't go on a 2 hour hike without being insanely out of breath, it's not "fatphobia" for not wanting to date that person.

[–]DefinitelyNotJannatPussy connoisseur 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. I regularly play tennis in the tennis court near my house. I've played with some people who were out of breath after having to run around to hit the ball TWICE. it's surprising how out of shape some people can be.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 22 insightful - 12 fun22 insightful - 11 fun23 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

So does this work for other body types too? If I'm not into bodybuilders and excessively muscular guys, am I not really gay? Please educate me, queerlords

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 22 insightful - 11 fun22 insightful - 10 fun23 insightful - 11 fun -  (0 children)

damn most babies are 8-12 pounds

Lol brutal

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 21 insightful - 5 fun21 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

I don't understand how people like this have friends. Like here they were having a nice conversation about relationships, and then one of them decided, 'okay we are having too much fun, let me lower my pants, squat and shit all over it now! You are not a lesbian muahahaha!!' Like... What? Why???

[–]insta 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

These people fundamentally believe that there is their opinion/position and then there's hate. You can't just have a disagreement with someone or view something differently and move on. If they don't think the way you do, it's either because they're ignorant or they're evil.

These people are dangerous and exhausting.

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm scared for the future. Toxic people like this are going to keep burning bridges until no one, not even their own family wants to talk to them, they can't get jobs because they make everyone at work miserable and get fired and no one will hire them because of bad references, and then what happens to them? Especially with these last three generations fueled by cancel-culture, we are going to have an epidemic of friendless assholes who spread misery and trauma everywhere they go.

[–]insta 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We have a major problem with utopian thinkers and it's not going away anytime soon. Once it reaches a critical mass there's really only two options. Deradicalizing them or violence (either upon us or them). I get everyone wants to be politically expedient and just say "Everyone who disagrees with me is evil and wants you dead" but there are serious consequences to hamming up the political rhetoric like that.

[–]censorshipment 19 insightful - 7 fun19 insightful - 6 fun20 insightful - 7 fun -  (2 children)

As an obese lesbian, I want to debate with the "fat is not a choice" idiot. I can't stand insecure fat people who whine about being unwanted/rejected.

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

As a moderately overweight and overfat lesbian, I as well want to debate these people. I made the choice to become chubby.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As a used-to-be-hunky-but-now-am-dumpy middle-aged gay guy, all I can say is ... shit happens. I exercise every day but my body doesn't quite respond the way it used to. Meh, aging...

[–]reluctant_commenter 16 insightful - 4 fun16 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

I can't exercise the gay away

Now that's a new one.

Some fat women like to claim men who like thin women are actually gay, so it's not surprising that they would claim that lesbians who aren't attracted to fat women are straight.

Where do these people even come from...?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 16 insightful - 7 fun16 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

It doesn't even make sense. By this logic straight women who are attracted to fat men lesbians? I mean... Those luscious moobs and curves...

[–]Seahorse 14 insightful - 6 fun14 insightful - 5 fun15 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

LMFAO what?🤣

I'm so glad I'm old, tf is this generation? Participation trophies have done this I swear!

[–]EmotionalProstitute 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

And who gave them participation trophies? the generation before them.

[–]Seahorse 1 insightful - 4 fun1 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Meh🤣

[–]SkinnyVanilla 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

If I had to try to date these days, I just wouldn’t.

[–]theytookourjerbsXX only. 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm moderately overweight and quite overfat and that's my choosing to eat in excess in the past. I'm currently trying to watch what I eat and exercise with light weights and walking now. So it's their choice being moderately obese, and it's also my choice being moderately overweight. I for some reason have odd preferences, but I won't powerlevel here.

[–]Virginia_Plain 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think a lot of older and/or heavier men are attractive, but I do think it's one of those things where there's a threshold that can be crossed. If someone is extremely obese, I would not find them as attractive. Extremes of any body feature can be a turn off. I wouldn't turn a guy down if he has a septum ring or earrings or tattoos, but extreme body modification is a turn off. Same with muscles, or even thinness; people who are emaciated looking look more "sickly" than "hot" to me.

On the other hand, there are dudes out there that find all of that hot...some guys DO like very obese men, body builders who are just piles upon piles of muscle, etc.

Sadly, I think the idea of "acceptance" in everyday life means "up for anything." Gay/Lesbian/"Queer" people are supposed to be about "acceptance" so any sort of no-gos for sexuality when it comes to appearance are supposed to be worked through and looked past; we must unlearn our toxic, shallow, surface-y obsessions when we are looking for someone to date or hook up with. I think part of it is people who are too immature or damaged to be able to realize that you can not be attracted to someone sexually and still value them, and another part of it is weird "radical politics" posturing. It's anecdotal, but I remember when same-sex marriage was on the cusp of being passed...the radical politics people I knew whos mantra was "LOVE cannot be ILLEGAL/All love is equal love, etc." seemed to turn on the idea of gay marriage with a sourpuss attitude before the ink on the Supreme Court decision even dried. Practically overnight, gay or lesbian people who wanted to get married were unimaginative capitalists who were complicit in oppressive politics.

That does seem to be how a lot of Marx-oriented political movements work....they view certain social developments as necessary evils which must be reached in order to set the stage for other, more advanced stages of revolution. The representatives of that intermediary stage (e.g. landed gentry in classic Marxist theory) must then be just as swiftly pushed out of the way.

[–]usehername 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Lmao this seems like satire.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Wtffff