That really sucks that you've read similar stories so many times, it's dreadful. People like him are so obviously mentally ill but no one wants to address the elephant in the room. It feels almost like when men would try to convert lesbians and say they just haven't found the right dick yet - only now the argument is that I should date a male BECAUSE I'm a lesbian, not because I'm secretly not or because sexuality is fluid. It makes it so much worse. He literally showed absolutely zero interest in me before finding out, probably even negative interest tbh. Other lesbians should be wary when interacting with trans women in any context