LGB Erasurer/egg_irl - "No matter what, if a thought occurs to you that you are trans, and you doubt it, the thought MUST be true." Trans the gay away...

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[–]julesburm1891 29 insightful - 5 fun29 insightful - 4 fun30 insightful - 5 fun -  (6 children)

Oddly enough, I’ve never had to wonder if I’m faking being a lesbian.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 16 insightful - 4 fun16 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

I have, because I got told that not liking dick means I am bisexual. Lol.

To be serious for a moment though. I think that many of these teenagers (for egg_irl seems likely to be full of teenagers, from the subreddit stats) are really uncomfortable with the idea of uncertainty. And, for at least some people, their sexual orientation really only becomes obvious/clear once they are past the throes of young adulthood. Add to that the fact that many Gen Z teens seem out of touch with their bodily experiences, and we get a whole mess of people jumping the gun on declaring their sexuality and then being taken advantage of because of their lack of boundaries.

[–]julesburm1891 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

To be fair, I got the privilege of growing up in a saner time than you did. (I’m turning 30 in a few months and I remember you mentioning being in your early 20s once.) Gender woowoo wasn’t a thing when I was a teenager so I never had any confusion about what it meant that I only liked women with vaginas. Actually, having to specify “women with vaginas” or “men with penises” wasn’t a thing that even occurred to me or pretty much anyone else until couple of years ago.

Idk. I know I’m getting older and maybe it’s coloring my perceptions of Gen Z. What I see with a lot of the youths now is that they’re living on social media and live with way more technological convenience than other generations have. It seems like their anxiety is through the roof because they’re so focused on what others are doing and how they measure up to that. It also seems like they have no patience. They expect everything to be instantaneous and without any struggle. I see it often at my work (librarian) where teens will become despondent or just give up if they don’t pick up on something quickly. It seems like gen z is impatient to understand that you probably won’t fully get your sexual orientation at 14 either. They just want an answer now.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

(I’m turning 30 in a few months and I remember you mentioning being in your early 20s once.)

Yup! I'm glad you didn't have to deal with this :) nice to know it doesn't always have to be this way.

It seems like their anxiety is through the roof because they’re so focused on what others are doing and how they measure up to that.

100% agree. Because many Gen Z have a constant audience since they post on social media so often.

It seems like gen z is impatient to understand that you probably won’t fully get your sexual orientation at 14 either. They just want an answer now.

Perhaps it's a negative side effect of the otherwise-positive fact that "You can just Google anything."

You have to learn, as a teenager, that there are some questions you CANNOT find an answer to on Google. I learned this lesson the hard way when I spent years researching abusive behaviors: I asked Google, "Why were my parents abusive?" And eventually, after learning way more than I ever considered about various forms of psychopathology, I realized: "I can't get Google to answer for me why I got STUCK with abusive parents" or "what does it MEAN that I was abused?" You can't Google the answers to those questions, lol. I think it's quite a similar thing with sexual orientation: your sexual orientation is signalled by how you feel in your body and you can't Google that, lol.

[–]julesburm1891 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It wasn’t like this for any LGB people who came before you. We had other bullshit, but not the gaslighting AND hardcore homophobia that you guys do.

I absolutely agree with your assessment that it’s people expecting immediate answers. Younger generations don’t get that there’s not an algorithm for life. You have to do a lot of living and mistake making to figure things out.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Bwahaha. I'm in my early 50s, came out when I was 16.

It goes without saying that WHEN I WAS A BOY, men were men, women were women, gays were gays and straights were straights. We didn't have any any of that transgender transbian nonbinary shit. Now get off my lawn!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It seems like gen z is impatient to understand that you probably won’t fully get your sexual orientation at 14 either.

Me having realised my sexuality at 14: 👁👄👁

Just kidding haha! I agree with you - I'm aware many people at that age or younger don't know very well their sexual orientation. There are people who do though, but yeah, I believe not the majority