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[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

when I see non-gays say that butch-femme couples are heteronormative, I start to understand better why we are in the gender mess in the first place. I never realized some of these people really cant figure it out, I thought they were faking it.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I never realized some of these people really cant figure it out, I thought they were faking.

Oh no, they're not faking. Some straight men genuinely can't understand why some lesbians like masc/androgynous women, and the reverse for straight women who can't understand why some gay men like feminine/androgynous men. They're confusing gender presentation with biological sex and sexuality.

The way I've explained it to my straight male friends is, no matter how "manly" a woman dresses, or if she has short hair, when the clothes come off she's still entirely female. It's really that simple.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s such an ignorant attitude. I am quite feminine in appearance and never have I ever felt like I was interacting with a man when with a butch woman. Many have more stereotypically feminine’s interests and personalities than me. And I’m attracted to a wide spectrum of women. Because they’re women.