Gay MenWhat can I say to all those gay transphobes who can see I'm actually a straight woman?

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[–][deleted] 59 insightful - 22 fun59 insightful - 21 fun60 insightful - 22 fun -  (0 children)

now that I "pass" more than I did in the past I'm actually having more issues with dating.

It's hilarious that this actually surprised her. No shit you have more issues dating after 'passing better'. You look too manly for most straight men and you don't have a real dick for gay men. But hey at least people probably respect your pronouns now. I'm sure all the lies were worth that.

[–]julesburm1891 55 insightful - 21 fun55 insightful - 20 fun56 insightful - 21 fun -  (3 children)

Maybe try other trans people.

This response made me spit my tea out. Maybe this should be our default answer.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah[S] 28 insightful - 15 fun28 insightful - 14 fun29 insightful - 15 fun -  (1 child)

But m’dysphoriiiiiiiiia

[–]julesburm1891 36 insightful - 10 fun36 insightful - 9 fun37 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

My favorite response in the world. So, uh, you’re saying there’s are differences between transmen and men and transwomen and women that change sexual situations? Huh, who knew?

[–]Rubyredpython 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This honestly should be our default answer for all dating complaints from them. If they complain about already doing that and still wanting "cis" partners, our default response should be why do they not think their trans partners are enough?

[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 35 insightful - 21 fun35 insightful - 20 fun36 insightful - 21 fun -  (1 child)

Hahaha every single answer is good (except for the bottom one!)

I mean, honey, what can you say? Is there any magical combination of words you can use, when said in the correct order, that can suddenly make a man attracted to you? Maybe "I have baby tigers and meth over at my place." ???

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 21 insightful - 4 fun21 insightful - 3 fun22 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. "Transphobic" or not, they all tell her to just forget about it.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 31 insightful - 7 fun31 insightful - 6 fun32 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

Even that subreddit is not submitting en masse. Only two comments at the bottom were pitying her. All the rest of the comments were like "get over it."

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 33 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I honestly don't understand why the fuck everyone, literally EVERYONE faces rejection for the most stupid/random/superficial reasons such as the height, the hair, the smell, an attitude, etc etc. Yet everyone is capable of dealing with it and moving on, because dating is unpredictable and discriminatory. WHY do we ALWAYS have to open an exception for trans people though?????

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Because they need a shit ton of therapy instead of hormones and surgery thats why.

[–]Rubyredpython 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This

[–]bopomofodojo 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yet everyone is capable of dealing with it and moving on

But they're not.

I guarantee you most of these people are either (a) completely petrified of rejection to the point that they barely ask anyone out, a.k.a. incel/femcel, and are using this as their crutch; or (b) are the sort of people who would indeed complain about exactly that sort of stuff too and demand people date them regardless of their height/hair/smell/attitude/etc. if it was, not just socially acceptable, but there was a "phobia" or negative-"-ism" attached to it - why do you think "fatphobia" has become a thing? Same thing. And honestly even separating these into two distinct "groups" is probably misleading, since the Venn diagram is probably almost a complete circle between both. Meek IRL, powerful online sort of stuff.

No one owes anyone a date ever for whatever goddamn reason they want, even for "phobia"s and negative-"-ism"s.

[–]JulienMayfair 21 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

This is like someone who buys a house on the coast of the southeastern U.S. and then gets upset about hurricanes -- or someone who moves to California and is surprised that there are wildfires and earthquakes.

How naive do you have to be not to see this coming?

[–]julesburm1891 17 insightful - 9 fun17 insightful - 8 fun18 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

Well I bought a house directly on the San Andreas fault, but I didn’t think it would be my house that was destroyed in an earthquake.

[–]MyLongestJourney 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because a)mental illness b)very few people dare to tell them the truth.

[–]Virginia_Plain 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think what's disturbing about some of the answers is that "those guys aren't worth it....FUCK THEM!!!" is either implicitly or explicitly stated in the answers. I get that rejection sucks, but does it always mean that the rejector is actually a trash-tier person?

On a level, I can sympathize with the poster. I myself have fallen in love with someone completely incompatible. A straight guy who was one of my closest friends. Realizing that he could not reciprocate that affection and attraction was not fun. But guilting him into sex would've just created a hostage situation, not a solid relationship or even a fun little fling. And yet, I did not turn on him with hostility, telling myself that he was shallow or unevolved or bigoted or whatever. That is what preserved our friendship. He's married to a woman, he has two kids, he loves them all. I could not have given that to him. That does not mean I need to take a sour grapes attitude towards him.

Edit: I also don't think that the answer is to necessarily turn on transgender people. For better or for worse, this person has transitioned, and is into men. There are definitely men who are into transmen. Great! I'm not going to begrudge an M/FTM couple if they have a spark. I do believe it is different from being a homosexual, and people need to understand that.

[–]FediNetizenSuper-semi-bisexual (i.e. straight) 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I get that rejection sucks, but does it always mean that the rejector is actually a trash-tier person?

I'd rephrase the question. Does it ever mean that the rejector is actually a trash-tier person?

Given that the person asking is in a vulnerable place now that they've put their cards on the table, rejecting someone in a nasty or unnecessarily harsh way does make you a garbage person. However, no one owes anyone else a relationship, and politely rejecting someone you're not interested in does not in any way make you a bad person.

[–]Virginia_Plain 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I could've said it better. Being spiteful or cruel to someone when rejecting them is awful, but not wanting to hook up does not.

[–]Seahorse 17 insightful - 6 fun17 insightful - 5 fun18 insightful - 6 fun -  (3 children)

Checked her profile.

She doesnt actually pass it at all lol literally one of the most feminine looking ftms I've seen, she hasn't even hulked up like they usually do🤣

Kudos for the week old account that said "I just say Ok Boomer". Lol ok Aiden.

I'm pleased most of the responses are common sense.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

OMG, because of your comment I decided to check her profile as well and she looks like a butch lesbian LMAO. My brain immediately thought about that, despite, you know, she being actually a straight woman. You're right, she doesn't pass at all, despite being masculine and trying to act all ""manly"". (because being masculine =/= being the opposite sex, but this is too much logic for them lmao)

[–]dramasexual 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

She posts nudes and she literally still has visible tits hanging out. What's even happening here?

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Have you also seen her "" dick""? Damn, I would for sure eat that dick 😂😂😂👌 like how can they be this delusional and think they have a" micro penis". It is a vagina and it's not because you call it a penis that it will suddenly be one.............

[–]Rationalmind 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I don’t understand how these people think the dating pool will be larger if they sex transition. Common sense, when applied, would mean that this would make your dating pool smaller.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

These people aren't on the best of terms with common sense right now.

[–]DestructionI ❤️ adult human females 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Say good bye? Like what do u want to accomplish here

There is still some sanity left in that sub thank god