LesbianWhat do all lesbians have in common?

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[–]RedditHatesLesbiansHomosexual Not Queer[S] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

This. I feel really uncomfortable being grouped into the LGBT or even LGB community solely because I'm a lesbian. I didn't ask to be gay, I just am, and I hate that I'm inherently part of some group solely by existing. I can't think of any other group that gets treated like this. Grouping all other minorities into fun little clubs is seen as regressive, but putting all homosexuals together and even assuming they have enough in common to want to be together is apparently just fine? I have absolutely nothing in common with a homosexual male even as far as homosexuality goes, you have a completely different relationship with attraction and male homosexuality is also seen much differently on a societal level. And the bullshit about LGBT being necessary because people "fought for our rights" makes me so mad. No American gay activist has ever given me ANY rights. Like America is the only country in the world

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. I didn't choose to be a homosexual male & it doesn't affect my personality, interests, or political views. Having different interests & views* also doesn't make me magically straight, contrary to popular belief.

I also feel like homosexuality is immensely different between men and women, so, it can be difficult for lesbians and gay men to understand eachother. Case in point, when I complain about my sexuality, I often have lesbian & bisexual women telling me "but I LOVE being homosexual, I don't have to deal with men and that's great! Why don't you like it?" which... kinda speaks for itself, haha.

[–]reluctant_commenter 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I like to hang out here with other people who are one of LGB even though the majority are not lesbian, because surely gay men, bisexual people and straight allies here will understand and even relate to experiences of homophobia far better than people in the TQ-dominated "LGBTQ+ community" can.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I can't think of any other group that gets treated like this. Grouping all other minorities into fun little clubs is seen as regressive, but putting all homosexuals together and even assuming they have enough in common to want to be together is apparently just fine?

This is also a gripe I hear about the phrase "people of color" or "POC." I know a lot of so called "people of color" who don't want to be called that because they cannot relate to the idea that all people who are not white are a unit with common interests that should be defined by their lack of whiteness. Yet "POC" is considered a politically correct term.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

POC also sounds so fucking dirty to say. I know it's bad but in my friend groups we openly make fun of the term by substituting random chides or insults for it, just because it sounds so goddamn aggressive and offensive yet supposedly is the new "correct" way to refer to the majority of the world's population.

It really isn't a term that has any place in polite conversation and I'm astounded that these people are determined to make it so. What happened to all the neutral and respectful terms we had to refer to various distinct ethnic demographics?