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[–]8bitgay 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I find it hard to imagine a gay man would find a transwoman that transitioned far enough attractive. Same for lesbians with transmen. IMO for these instances maybe we should create new sexuality names. People are so keen on creating new sexualities anyway. Maybe we should call people who feel legitimely attracted to transmen/transwomen pansexual, or something else.

These same men that date "trans women" would never date a "cis" man. They say, "I would suck a dick if it's on a trans woman, because they are women, but can't if it's on a man"

Internalized homophobia is hard to fight. These men can't accept the idea of being anything other than straight. It's easier to justify yourself for sucking a dick if you .

Why is it much more common for "straight" men to be obsessed with transwomen? Why don't we see gay men having the same obsession over transmen? That's easy: if a man finds women attractive that is socially accepted, he doesn't need to justify himself by resorting to transmen.

We're already attracted to someone way before we learn what's in someone's pants.

We can also be attracted just by seeing their faces and lose attraction when we see their bodies. We might find someone attractive and lose attraction when finding out their age. On the opposite direction, someone who we find uninteresting might become more attractive after we see their bodies or their genitals. There are many situations that make us get or lose attraction.

The idea that we can't be attracted to genitals is very puritanical. Glory holes exist, gay men go there just to appreciate the dick coming from the hole. People post pics of their genitals on the internet for other people to enjoy.

The whole thing about femboys is hilarious. Femboys don't even identify as women. They are men, men with dicks who identify as men. Twinks exist, and many gay men like twinks. Some don't. Some gay men like masculine men, some like feminine men, some like both.

Also a reminder that people can become more/less masculine or feminine as time passes. You can't really think that a guy is straight while his boyfriend is shaved, but then become gay when his boyfriend decides to grow a beard.

Activists talk so much about respecting people identities, yet this whole model of sexuality based on secondary characteristics doesn't respect identities. A man who says he is straight because he only likes femboys is invalidating the manhood of the men he feels attracted. He is saying that men are only men if they're masculine enough.