Now, the word woman simply describes a relationship to patriarchy, it is a power dynamic, an external construct that has nothing to do with who I am on the inside.

It has nothing to do with how any of us are on the inside! That's kind of the whole fucking point: no women "identify with" the power dynamic of patriarchy. But instead of taking part in activism or professions that try to change the status quo, or helping other women who have it worse than you, or participating in skills/hobbies that break stereotypes, paving the way for other girls, and fundamentally changing how women are treated, you "opt out" of womanhood linguistically, naively thinking it's going to change your material reality! Newsflash: it doesn't! I should know, I've been there