Lifestyle[Questions] Love is in the Air!

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Since Valentine's Day is coming up soon for some(depending where you live), I wanted to make a holiday post!

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General Questions

1. Are you currently single, married, dating or in a long term relationship?

2. Do you and your partner typically celebrate Valentine's day? If so what do you like to do? If not, why not? [If single, what would you do on this day if you had a partner?]

3. Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages and taken the quiz? [If your took the quiz, what were your results?]

4. What do you like to do for fun or how do you like to pass the time with your partner? [If single, what would you like to do if you had a partner?]

Preferences

5. What features do you find physically attractive?

  • 5a. What features does your partner like about you?

6. Personality-wise, what do you look for in a partner?

  • 6a. What trait does your partner like about you?

7. [Bisexuals] Are you attracted mainly to men or women? Do you go through "bi-cycles"? (ex. More attracted to women then fluctuates to being more attracted to men).

8. [Gay men] Do you have preference for masculine or feminine men?

8. [Lesbian women] Do you prefer femme, stem(in the middle), or butch women?

Family

10. How does family feel about your current partner? [If single, how does your family feel about you being single?]

11. Would you like to have kids in the future?

12. What do family get togethers look like for you and your partner?

BONUS

  • Feel free to share any additional thoughts!

As always, if there's more questions, this post will be edited.

Edit: word Edit: messed up on the numbering system, but I'll leave it alone for now.

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[–]censorshipment 7 insightful - 13 fun7 insightful - 12 fun8 insightful - 13 fun -  (1 child)

I'm single but sort of still involved with my ex-girlfriend. I don't celebrate holidays... I hate capitalism and shopping. My love languages are receiving quality time / undivided attention and doing acts of services. I like to argue, break up, grovel and make up for fun.

My favorite physical feature is dark brown skin (Danai Gurira's skin tone or darker). My favorite personality trait is antagonistic (I like women who talk shit especially about men and white folks). I only date femmes... typically feminine bi women... gay femmes tend to be too sexually aggressive towards me. Bi women tend to play their submissive role with me. I'm a "touch-me-not"... I don't want a lesbian trying to eat my pussy.

My family likes whoever I like. I dislike kids and believe kids are burdens (this applies to adults who mooch off of their parents, like I'm proudly doing lol I hate working). I'm not family-oriented.

[–]CuntWorshiperWomenholic full time | vagina fetishist part-time 18 insightful - 9 fun18 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

LOL wtf did I just read

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. Are you currently single, married, dating or in a long term relationship?

Single.

  1. [If single, what would you do on this day if you had a partner?]

Probably nothing. Chocolate is nice though.

  1. Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages and taken the quiz? [If your took the quiz, what were your results?]

Physical touch. Which is unsurprising.

  1. [If single, what would you like to do if you had a partner?]

Mostly sex and just spending time together. I don't care too much what, as long as I'm not alone.

Preferences

  1. What features do you find physically attractive?

I really don't know because I have only found one person who fits my basic requirements (Don't be an asshole, don't want to harm me, don't easily "pass" for male) and I don't know what I like beyond traits that could be considered some form of fetishization. I think I like the idea of shorter partners but I think that is more an insecurity thing. I do not like the idea of being with someone who is much taller and bigger than I am.

  1. Personality-wise, what do you look for in a partner?

I like them to not be an arrogant asshole, which seems to be very hard to find. I also lean towards more quiet and patient people.

  1. [Gay men] Do you have preference for masculine or feminine men?

I only feel comfortable around extremely feminine/androgynous males, like, could be mistaken for an actual female physical traits wise. But they're so rare, so, dating is impossible. I also am turned off by hyper feminine stereotypes. My ideal is physically feminine (wide hips, female outward appearance) but a """masculine""" personality (stands up for themself, is confident, doesn't just want to emulate a gross caricature of "being girly")

I am not sexually nor emotionally attracted to any masculine features.

  1. [If single, how does your family feel about you being single?]

I am fortunately without a family now, but I figure my mother would probably be disappointed.

  1. Would you like to have kids in the future?

Yes, but I don't think it's morally acceptable for me to do so.

Additional thoughts: Dating is near impossible. I'm not actively looking for anyone because it's not worth the risk of ending up with abusive people for the 0.0000000001% chance at a fairytale scenario. I don't believe most people, especially men, are capable of love, and I won't change my mind until I see hard evidence to the contrary.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for this wonderful posts! :)

  1. Single

  2. N/A

  3. So I took the test and my love language was Words Of Affirmation (29%) and the rest being:

  • Acts Of Service (26%)
  • Physical Touch (19%)
  • Quality Time (16%)
  • Receiving Gifts (10%)

So, about the result... I can't stay it's wrong, because I'm a person who likes to be "reassured" lots of times, so in that perspective, it's definitely true. However, for me the actions are always more important than words. So I don't care if someone tells me I'm beautiful 30x a day if that person doesn't bother to meet with me, you know? So, I'm not sure? This was their description:

"Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up."

4) Just being with them in bed doing nothing, chilling at night.

5) Not picky

6) A strong personality, for sure. I love assertive women. Physically wise, I'm not picky at all but personality wise I'm very picky, unfortunately lmao.

8) Femme, for sure (like a low maintenance femme)

10) They don't say anything

11) Yes

[–]strawberrysun 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. Single
  2. If I had a girlfriend, I would cook her a nice dinner. I like to cook and make homemade candies for my girlfriends.
  3. Physical touch
  4. With my last girlfriend, we explored the city a lot because she was new in town (2019 so things were actually open) while I have lived here for most of a decade. Sometimes we also just cuddled in bed doing nothing.
  5. I like a nice butt! ;) Also, as a short/small woman, I am kind of drawn to other women my size because I like to feel equal.
  6. I want someone who is easy to talk to.
  7. N/A
  8. N/A
  9. Femme
  10. No one really comments on me being single except my little sister (HS senior) who thinks I am old and need to hurry up.
  11. No, and this is why my last relationship ended. Now that I am in my late 20s, I am struggling to find women who feel the same!
  12. I live 2000 miles away from my family, so I only visit once a year on average. I’ve never brought a girlfriend back to meet them.

[–]usehername 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. Long-term relationship
  2. I really don't care about holidays, so nothing.
  3. I've heard of it. My results were evenly spread besides gift-giving. I prefer to give gifts, not recieve.
  4. We mostly play video games together.
  5. I have the same type for men and women: thin (not model-thin, just not overly muscular), brown skin, and long brown/black hair, long eyes, and short like me.
  6. Outgoing but respectful. Macho attitudes are a huge-turn off
  7. Mostly women, because men tend to have more abrasive personalities and aren't usually my physical type. However, my partner is a man who I am very attracted to (extremely rare, I just got lucky) and we've been together for five years.
  8. N/A
  9. N/A
  10. Don't have much family for unrelated reasons, but they like him.
  11. No kids.
  12. We don't really have family get-togethers.

[–]Destresse🇨🇵 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

  1. Are you currently single, married, dating or in a long term relationship?

Single since I met the world. Look you can even find poetry in it

  1. Do you and your partner typically celebrate Valentine's day? If so what do you like to do? If not, why not? [If single, what would you do on this day if you had a partner?]

Well, there is 99% of chances I will forget valentine's day. Usually I'm reminded by the radio, or the avalanche of ads I get in my mails. So I'm pretty sure I would not be planning anything, but if I were in a relationship I think I'd want to make an effort. Dinner date sounds like something I'd do, but nothing too grand

  1. Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages and taken the quiz? [If your took the quiz, what were your results?]

Apparently physical touch and acts of service. I'm very amused at the glaring 0% in "words of affirmation", I didn't expect it to be THAT bad hahaha. I do like some "I love yous" here and there.

... Oh, and I just realised that also describes my dad perfectly.

  1. What do you like to do for fun or how do you like to pass the time with your partner? [If single, what would you like to do if you had a partner?]

Hmmm. I would really like to go ice skating with my future girlfriend. With a bit of luck I'll get one before I turn 60 and ice skating becomes a health hazard for my future arthritis hahaha

  1. What features do you find physically attractive?

I don't know, the women I've found attractive over the years have almost nothing in common. There are things I find attractive but intellectually dislike, if that makes sense. One consistent thing although: bigger breasts than me. Which isn't difficult lol

Oh, nice thighs also. I still remember the first time I saw my best friend in a swimsuit and my brain short circuited

  1. Personality-wise, what do you look for in a partner?

Oh my god, patience. My brain is always on overdrive, I have immense trust issues and therefore I don't... easily let people love me. Honestly, I'm not sure myself. What should I look for in a partner? I wish someone could just tell me lol, I seem to consistently make bad decisions on that front

  1. [Lesbian women] Do you prefer femme, stem(in the middle), or butch women?

Stem, I guess? I didn't even know this word existed lol

  1. How does family feel about your current partner? [If single, how does your family feel about you being single?]

My dad wants me to find a girlfriend very badly. He thinks I'd thrive in a relationship, I'm pretty sure. Like he does. My mom, honestly I have no idea. My sister has no opinion, but I guess it's nice we can relate to each other since we're both single and have the same trust issues and everything haha. If I get a girlfriend, I want her to get a boyfriend. Then we'd organise trips with the four of us and stuff. It'd be fun

  1. Would you like to have kids in the future?

Ideally, but I'm not sure. 'Ideally' as in, if I were straight and could do this with the person I love, then yes of course. Reality is I'm homosexual and I'm not even sure I'd be a great mother. And there is no 'person I love' around either.

That was fun, thanks for trying to bring original content to this sub!