It means very little to me & I refuse to participate.

My sexuality is a personal matter, and a painful one at that. It's not a shocking plot twist in a TV drama. I don't exist to entertain and "shock" others, and I owe no one an explanation unless I plan to get romantically or sexually involved with them - and I'm choosing not to do that.

I intend to keep this secret to the grave, with the exception of my close friends and MAYBE a doctor/therapist if I could find one who could help me. But that's only because of venting reasons. I take absolutely no pleasure in telling anyone that I'm gay & I always fear that even people I trust might tell others, or make fun of me.

I try to avoid the topic of sexuality, especially in real life. But if I'm asked directly if I'm gay, or I'm assumed to be gay by someone making a disrespectful "joke" or asking me about a "boyfriend" (because I am androgynous which apparently means I "look gay") I will outright deny it and say I'm not into guys.

"Coming out" is a stupid rite of passage for the privileged to get attention, mostly on the internet and/or reality TV. If you're suffering or struggling with your sexuality there are zero benefits to telling anyone.

Also I don't know why it has been given a stupid name and hyped up as "coming out of the closet" when straight people don't "come out." It's ridiculous and makes me feel like even more of a freak.