Listen, dude: it's not that their memory sucks, it's that they don't want to pander to your personal identity denial issues.

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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 36 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 0 fun37 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wished his relatives would grow a spine and remind him that he’s not a woman.

[–]panderichthys 35 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Absolutely. Honestly, I'm even fine with calling you your chosen name, I just won't change the pronouns I use to refer to you in the third person.

Incidentally, this is the quattuordecillionth reason LGB and T should never have merged. Same-sex attracted people just wanted to be treated like people and then left alone. Meanwhile, troids want you to change the way you think, speak, and act. No thank you.

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 8 fun6 insightful - 7 fun7 insightful - 8 fun -  (2 children)

What is a "troid"? Is that like from Metroid?

[–]BusterGrundle 9 insightful - 11 fun9 insightful - 10 fun10 insightful - 11 fun -  (1 child)

This is why Samus needed to eradicate them all.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee~=[,,_,,]=^_^= 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh god, this reminds me of all the articles talking about how Samus is trans and it still pissing me off ...

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 32 insightful - 5 fun32 insightful - 4 fun33 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

Um, cuz marriage only changes (if anything) her LAST name, not her given one; she doesn't suddenly stop being Katherine and become Elizabeth. And how often does your LAST name get used by your FAMILY? They CALL you by your first name. So, for all practical purposes, where they're concerned... NOTHING IS REALLY DIFFERENT, NAME-WISE.

Gosh, ya mean there's something that ISN'T about your precious Gender IdentityTM ? HOW CAN SUCH THINGS BEEEEE

[–]julesburm1891 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My sister got married nearly seven years ago. I still think of her as Sister’s Name Maiden Name in my head before I remember she’s Sister’s Name Married Name. There are just not many scenarios where I have to reference my sister’s last name (other than addressing greeting cards to her and her husband) so I don’t goof on it out loud.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 26 insightful - 4 fun26 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Why is it always only up to those who have accepted the sex they are born as to "reflect on", "check", and "unpack" their reasons for declining to deal with your delusions? Could you perhaps meet them halfway? Nooo, because that would risk debilitating dysphoria...

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Dysphoria which surprisingly doesn't rear its ugly head when they talk about their bussies and lady dicks.

Makes you think...

[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh my god that is a lot of upvotes.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I might be in the minority here but I'm fine with using preferred name and pronouns so long as they're not neo pronoun bullshit. THAT SAID changing a friend's first name and pronouns is super hard. So much harder than a pet or a last name because you've used it all the time for years. I had a friend change first names (not trans, just changed names) and it took about a year to sink in. Like, it's genuinely really hard to reverse these habits, the people criticising them are being morons.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I had this issue when my friend completely changed her name, and I couldn't always remember to call her by her new name. She cut off contact with me years ago, but she started hanging out with members of the TQ crowd, so I'm guessing that's why she did it.

[–]SapphicFox 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's also the fact that titles aren't commonly used between family members and friends to address each other while names are. The bride was called Mrs X because it was her wedding and it is still the norm for most of society for the woman to change her title and take on her husbands surname (Although some women are starting to move away from that). You don't tend to address your family or close friends as Mr/Miss, you use their name. Furthermore its not the norm for a male relative you've always known as Bob to change his name to Roberta, don a dress and want to be called by the title of 'Miss'. The concept of demanding everyone align with your personal feelings of 'identity' is at odds with material reality. You might use their preferred name/ pronouns to be nice but its so jarring that it sticks out like a sore thumb.

[–]PassionateIntensity 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Or because he still looks and sounds like the sex he is and it creates cognitive dissonance to mis-sex him. Unlike with a last name change.

[–]immersang 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This. Looking at a woman and connecting a new last name to her isn't inherently confusing. Seeing an obvious man and having to force yourself into thinking "she", that's a whole different thing.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder how it works for the Scandinavians. Would they change their surname to suit their new gender? I'm not sure if that's still how surnames work over there.

[–]RippoffOfLoveSStraight | Overuses quotation marks 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have some distant family that legally changed their first and last names. I still call them by their old names. How do you have an identity built entirely around a set of pronouns anyway?

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because they've got nothing else to show for themselves. It's like people who make their sexuality their entire personality.