DiscussionDoes anyone else feel weird describing themselves as their sexual orientation, because the words have become so watered-down now?

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[–]HelloMomo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I really wasn't suppressing my same sex attraction. Just given the way close female friendships are framed by society—especially when you're young—I thought it was within the realm of normal friendship feelings. I was a lonely kid for most of my childhood, so if I was a bit obsessive about some of my friends, I thought it was just because I'd been lonely for so long before, and now here someone was to end that. And that women are ridiculously beautiful was just objectively true, not my option or anything... right? And sure, they cause aching longing in my chest sometimes, but all beautiful things do that, like Italian villas and gypsy vanner horses and the starry night sky. And I probably actually am less sexual than some people, so that helped. And whenever I thought I might be lesbian, I told myself, "No, you're just talking yourself into it because you want to be a lesbian. You have to be born lucky to be a lesbian, and you are not lucky."

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Personally I wonder if sexual attraction is like asexuals try to frame it... like wanting to get physical? There was maybe only one person in my life I wanted to just know but in my head I never thought of anything unusual - I desired to be friends with that person of the same sex. But the idea of anything physical was really repulsive and seen as ruining what I wanted. The only time I ever felt "attracted" but it wasn't even physical nor I'd say very intense as people frame crushes to be very intense and obsessive. I was only like: "Wow this person is so cool and shares the same niche interests as me".