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[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 35 insightful - 5 fun35 insightful - 4 fun36 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

There's a huge physical and visual component to my attraction

You think there isn't a huge physical/visual component of attraction for all women? No woman lacks the physical/visual attraction, we just tend to be a bit quieter/more tactful in the way we talk about it, generally.

"cutesy soft"

No lesbian I know behaves like the "cutesy/soft" stereotype of anime porn. Women and female sexuality are not intrinsically cutesy or soft.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

You think there isn't a huge physical/visual component of attraction for all women?

Pop psychology pushes this idea about biological essentialism that men have a stronger visual/physical component of attraction than women. That may be where he is getting the idea from. Personally, I am not convinced by it, but I haven't read the relevant literature.

No lesbian I know behaves like the "cutesy/soft" stereotype of anime porn. Women and female sexuality are not intrinsically cutesy or soft.

Yeah it grosses me out when they talk about women that way.

[–]DifferentAirGC 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Pop psychology pushes this idea about biological essentialism that men have a stronger visual/physical component of attraction

Incel scholars invented the idea that women don't care about looks at all and just want men who can provide. Yes, they only mention men because for them we lesbians don't even exist.

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not only lesbians, just women in general.

Works of Nietzsche that started many of those pop-psychologies, are completely focusing only on man's libido and man's sexuality. Woman's sexuality is fully described through men there.

In many non-western countries to this day men believing that women sexuality does not exist at all. Clitoris was "found" and became subject of studies only few decades ago.