RantDoes any other lesbian or gay men feels this way?

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[–]Nohope 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

You're cocky, insensitive AND a hypocrite.

Nope, you're just incapable of expressing yourself better. When I read your post, and comments, you were all "I'm so jealous of straight girls, I want to understand what it's like to like a guy ugh", and "I hate being different". Of course I would reach the natural conclusion that you hate being gay and wish you were straight. I'm just saying what you said, or at least the only thing I could get from everything you said before this comment. That's not an assumption.

You should have just said this same thing you're saying now in this comment in your own post. There would be no misunderstandings otherwise.

I don't know which country you are in. But there are ways to meet with lesbians. Apps would work. And maybe bars, if you're 18+. But if you're not comfortable with those places, and if you're in a country where you can't easily find bars, and people on apps, then there is another option which is looking for lesbians in school, parks, etc. The difficult part will be asking around though, and I'm not sure how you're going to get past this difficult part.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Lmao. "you're wrong, I'm always right!" - this is you since you came here.

Also, notice how you were the only one here who didn't get my message? Maybe because I'm not the one wrong... Just MAYBE..............

[–]Nohope 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Yes, because I am right, duh. And no, notice how most of the commenters actually say they hate themselves for being gay. Not sorry to say this, you don't get to say "I don't appreciate being gay, and I'm not proud of being gay. I just accept it". You literally don't accept it when you can't appreciate it for what it is. You're just tolerating it, which is different from acceptance.

Tolerance means there always remains that little voice that says "if only I weren't gay/different"

Tolerance does not inherently appear with understanding and appreciation. It's like I can tolerate some insects in my house like ants, but still when I encounter them I don't appreciate them and feel like I should get rid of them.

Acceptance comes with approval and appreciation. It comes with satisfaction of oneself. And you don't appreciate being gay, and you're not satisfied with it so stop with all the contradictory statements.

By the way, the first top comment is from our usual homophobe VigorousTaintMassage who says he, just like you, is not proud of being gay and sees himself as a "freak". Nice word choice, the only times I see gay people being called "freaks" is by homophobes. Please stop playing around. It's either 1) you are incapable of expressing yourself, or 2) you know I figured you out, so you keep contradicting yourself to make yourself look better.

VigorousTaintMassage:

I kind of get it, but I don't feel proud either. I know I will always be different and society will see me as a "failed male", but that doesn't mean I'm happy about it. Acceptance doesn't equal appreciation.

I don't do "pride", I don't get gay culture and in-jokes, and I don't have a boyfriend nor do I hook up. So I think I'll always be a "freak among freaks" if that makes any sense

You:

This could have been written by me omggg... I also feel like a "freak among freaks". I also don't do pride, and don't get gay culture. Like I'm just a regular woman. Just because I'm gay it doesnt mean I need to have rainbow stuff all over my bedroom idk... And you're absolutely right - acceptance doesn't eqauk appreciation. I guess that's the way I feel about my homosexuality... Thank you for your message, for real.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Yes and this is because all the gay representation I see or many gay people I meet is usually people who are obsessed with gay culture, have rainbows all over the place etc etc lmao. What I mean by that is that I'd like to meet other gay people like me. And that person sounds similar to me. Basically my point is that I want people to relate to and it's been hard to find people to relate to so I feel constantly odd. So have you finally get it this time? Lmaaaaaaao.

And no, you didn't "figure myself out". Quite the opposite - you keep assuming lots of things about me when you know nothing about me, interpreting badly my words and then getting insulted when people assume things about you. Hypocrite. But I've already said it ha.

Acceptance is being okay with being gay. I'm okay with being gay. And wrong, acceptance doesn't necessarily mean "appreciation". For example, you worked hard for an important exam. You failed. You get sad over it, until it comes a point you accept the fact you failed the exam and need to try again. It doesn't necessarily mean you appreciate the fact you failed the exam.........

And no, definitely not the homophobes are the only ones who call people "freaks" lmao. Are you done? Can you just leave us all alone or do you enjoy draining everyone's energy when you're bored?

[–]Nohope 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

As I said, you are incapable of explaining yourself. Even if I'm "assuming", the only thing I "assumed" was you hating yourself for being gay which I concluded from your post and comments, whereas you falsely assumed that I never went through anything difficult and grew up in an accepting environment eventhough I left no texts before about my past that you could misunderstand and get that conclusion from. You just made that up out of thin air, which is far worse. At least my so-called "assumption" of you hating your being gay comes from your own texts that you left everywhere.

When on this earth did I "assume" anything about you besides you hating yourself for being gay? Hmm? Explain this "you assume lots of things about me", because there's this one thing I "assumed" which is the only thing I can get from your posts and comments indicating you hate being gay, and nothing else to account for "lots".

And wrong, acceptance doesn't necessarily mean "appreciation". For example, you worked hard for an important exam. You failed. You get sad over it, until it comes a point you accept the fact you failed the exam and need to try again. It doesn't necessarily mean you appreciate the fact you failed the exam.........

I think that's just tolerance. If I work hard, fail an exam, and get over it, I'm merely tolerating my grade and the fact that I failed the exam. That's not acceptance. Acceptance comes with appreciation.

And no, definitely not the homophobes are the only ones who call people "freaks" lmao.

Only homophobes call gay people freaks. gay people. Freak means weird, homophobes like calling gay people weird, which is why they use gay to mean weird as well. "That's so gay" when they think something is weird, and wrong which is homophobic.

Acceptance is being okay with being gay. I'm okay with being gay.

Acceptance comes with approving of and appreciating being gay, and you said in your comments you don't appreciate being gay, and when you say you're proud, you are just not ashamed of it anymore. How on this earth is that acceptance?

who are obsessed with gay culture, have rainbows all over the place etc

Yeah well, I don't blame them, they are doing everything they can to show they like being gay.

And that person sounds similar to me.

Riiiight, VigorousTainMassage, the homophobe that hates being gay, sounds just like you. And that doesn't mean you are homophobic /s

do you enjoy draining everyone's energy when you're bored?

Not draining, just having conversations with someone is nice when I'm bored. And if you feel drained, you can leave

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Omg jesus christ. You won't shut up will you. Yes you're exhausting girl. You also sound quite resentful and angry despite claiming to feel so happy. But I won't be like you and assume things, cheers 😘 (also, I said I might be wrong about my assumptions in my comment to you, something you forgot to mention I wonder why.... ) And like I explained in my last comment acceptance doesn't necessarily mean appreciation. Read again if you want lmao.

[–]Nohope 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You also sound quite resentful and angry despite claiming to feel so happy.

When did I say I am happy about everything? I'm definitely not the bubbly happy optimist you find everywhere. I'm a realist, and hate optimism with a passion. Go back to this comment: https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/70yy/does_any_other_lesbian_or_gay_men_feels_this_way/qqe0

What I said was I am happy about and appreciate being gay, and being me, but I am unhappy about things that have nothing, absolutely nothing to do with me and being gay, such as just other people existing. Their very existence makes me unhappy

So yeah, I am angry and resentful every second of everyday about things like the very existence of other people, the corrupt society they created and/or support, my internet issues, financial issues, etc but no, I would never ever be angry or resentful when it comes to myself and being gay. Ever. That would be wrong, and would be a violation of my objectives and goals.

Don't think I sounded angry in my comment though, maybe you got it from "what on this earth" but I just like the usage of "what on this earth", and "on this earth" itself.

also, I said I might be wrong about my assumptions in my comment to you, something you forgot to mention I wonder why....

Because you still made that assumption out of thin air, out of literally nothing. No text, nothing whatsoever, that you could at least misunderstand or misinterpret. But hey. As long as you make up something out of thin air, keep talking about it and say in the end "I could be wrong" then that would work just fiiine /s

And like I explained in my last comment acceptance doesn't necessarily mean appreciation.

Even if appreciation is separate from acceptance, how are you going to be able to accept being gay without appreciating it? I believe the power of acceptance can only start working when you start appreciating being gay. But whatever.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Omg...........

Lets just agree to disagree, yes?